why are some ladies hatefull and rude to other ladies.?

Question

I and my friend are setting here talking about the ladies in our office that seem to always have something bad to say about each other.(behind the back of those) I have found myself doing this very same thing and we want to know what every one else thinks on this.
I know we all do this at one time or another . why do we back stab and talk about one another .

Answer 1

Women do indeed do this. As a matter of fact, did you know that 3 women usually can't be close friends because 2 of them usually gang up and talk about the 3rd? Isn't that mean? I really have no idea why we do this. Women have many traits that are admirable.

The good news is that men are just as bad. But, the difference is that men take that stuff at face value and usually forget about it rather quickly. Whereas, women stew about it for a long time and hold grudges. I think that's the real difference between the sexes on this issue.

Thanks for the great question. Very thought provoking.

Answer 2

I cant stand that..but i have been guilty also...I think everyone has..Something I do now though is I make myself say whatever it is to the person involved...even if i do it after I have told someone else. Its just winging I suppose. I dont pick on people about what they are wearing or who they are dating or the like.. I only carry on about a personal gripe i might have with that particular person. I try never to say anything about anyone unless its nice. I think over time if you keep doing that it will become a habit almost and you will feel a bit better about the kind of person that you are.

Answer 3

This is an excellent question. I honestly think that the frustration we take out on others is a reflection of an ongoing inner struggle with our own lives or an issue that we have with ourselves. I know that it sounds strange, but if you think about it, it seems that we often wonder why people don't do things differently, act differently....so you see I think the actual person we are angry with is ourself. It's easy to get caught up in it too. I don't know how many times I swore I would never do that...and then would catch myself right in the middle of it. Stear clear of it...be happy with who you are and others flaws and inperfections will eventually not bother you anymore or at least as much.

Answer 4

I guess because we know how the other really is and may be because we are so much alike in many ways is why, we ladies know when each other because we are of the same sex, and we do and can think alike about many things.


So thats why some woman backstab and talk about each other.

Answer 5

Oftentimes, arguments leads to physical violence. To alleviate any confrontation, we as humans have a tendency of venting.
On the other hand, you do have some evil somethings floating around just initiating B.S. and dare somebody to say something or will deny they made a slanderous comments.

Answer 6

I agree with someone saying its actually our own insecurities that make us talk about someone who has it all, or better in whatever sense.

But I tend to think that when I do talk about someone, I try to mean as a "comment", not so much as trying to stab someone like most women do....

Answer 7

Must be insecurity and envy within yourself. I was this way in my early 20's but later learned that all women should support one another because we're all in it together. It will also make you feel good inside to stop hatin' and appreciate other women for their accomplishments in this unequal world.

Answer 8

Wow, good question. Yes, we have all done it. IT'S NOT JUST IN YOUR OFFICE. mOSTLY i THINK IT'S JEALOUSY. mAYBE THEY ARE MOR SUCCESSFUL OR HAVE A GOOD, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH SOME CSANOVA AND simply we have to see them in some bad light so we won't feel sad and pathetic for ourselves. Everyone (or girl) has done that even the most innocent looking, especially the sweet innocent looking.
Men use fist, we use the pyshcological approach.

Answer 9

For some reason it's easier for women to hate on another women especially when there is potential for that woman to end up with someone another woman wants or already has it.

Answer 10

Don't know, but women can be very cruel to each other.
We do our violence mainly with our tongues.
It's truly a shame, b/c it is hard to have genuine friendships that way- if we are talking behind each other's back...