how can i potty train my 3 1 /2 yr old daughter?

Question

ok, so i have a 3 yr old daughter who refuses to use the potty, and when i try to put her on the potty she kicks and screams and crys, and sometimes goes pee but a majority of the time there is nothing in the toilet. I have caught her quite a few times standing straight up with a red face pooping in her pants and i have hauled her off to the potty, but still no results. I have tried to make pottytime fun for her with books, toys, games and even sitting in the bathroom while she goes or attempts to go. I have tried a star potty chart and rewarding her with good deeds, but still no good results. I have also tried the approach every 30 mins put her on the potty with 30 minutes off. I even ask her if she wants to use the potty and she tells me yes but still goes in her pants. I have tried underwear too, i even went to the store with her and let her pick her underwear out but still she is not going potty. I dont know what more to do, im at my last limb and am so frustrated with her

Answer 1

set up a reward chart, have her pick out stickers and put them on the chart right next to the potty so she can see her progress. my nephew was stubborn like that, and once he could see his progress, and know he was going to get rewarded for it he did it. Even if she just pees on the potty praise her like no tomorrow. that is a step in the right direction.

Answer 2

yes it can be frustrating.... Some kids just don't want to release any place but there pants because they think that the waste is a part of them and to see it flushed down the toilet can be devastating until they understand what it is and why we do it. It is a difficult problem and sometimes takes more than you have. Call the doc (not around the child) ask what they suggest. Sometimes a stool softener can be given and once you find out what time its gonna work you can try different things. Also children's books from the library can help children understand that its okay to let this go!! I know it sounds crazy and I sympathize with you...good luck!

Answer 3

She is not ready Mom. Take it easy, unless there is something mentally challenging about her she will learn. How many normal adults do you see peeing and pooping themselves? The more you fight with her the worse she will get. Little story: I was in a semi-expensive restaurant and across from my table was a mother and daughter. She was about three or four. The mother started lifting her voice at her daughter. Well needless to say the daughter responded in like manner. Soon there was a screaming match between mother and daughter. The mother lost all control with a child. Do you see the problem here? It really doesn't matter what others think. You know your child best.

Answer 4

My four year old was the same. He just turned 4 and is finally fully trained. Guess what made him changed his mind...this: I told him that diapers cost a lot of money. I told him that instead of buying a bag of diapers I would buy him a toy instead. Every time I put a pull up diaper on him I remind him not to wet it, because it's so expensive. Within three days he was toilet trained. Say something to your daugther that she can relate to....you know her best. My son knows and understands the words expensive and cheap...that's why it worked.

Answer 5

i remember those days, what really will work is getting her around other kids that are potty trained. Believe it or not, kids as young as 3 don't like to be left out and if they feel like they are the only child not taking bathroom breaks they will want to be trained and free of diapers.

Answer 6

Let her set in her wet and poopy underware for a little while. She needs to be uncomfortable. Just keep using the underware not pullups or diapers.

Answer 7

Dont worry. She has a good future as a democrat.