My sweetheart and I have great sex together, when we have sex.!!! He is 42 and I am 40 we are really only 5 months apart in age as I will soon be turning 41. I love to make love! I feel like a teenager!! He is very loving and caring, and makes constant enuendos to having sex with me. But when it comes down to it, he goes to sleep!!! When we 1st got together it was nearly everyday.. and boy let me tell you I loved it! I knew this would not last, nice thought, but it was early in the relationship and that kind of sex kinda wanes after awhile and I understand that. But now after 3 years it is maybe 3 times a year( this started after the 1st yr)!!!! Thats NOT COOL! I try all kinds of thing from sexy nighties, to my own enuendos! He gets all excited but always has an excuse for the moment, then later when we retire and I am thinking. Ok here we go he rolls over wants a massage or for me to lightly rub his back.. and off to dreamland he goes! He appologizes, tommorow.. I'm still waiting!!
2006-07-09 13:54:17 · 8 answers · asked by Fancygal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try stuff thats exciting personal lubecants and massage oils do anything to turn him on give him a lap dance if u have to if it dont work talk to him about it and if he is just to tired at night well u no it is possiable to do it in the day!!!!!
2006-07-09 14:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by butterflykisses01247 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything crazy, just sit him down and tell him what your needs are. Let him know that he is good when it happens but it just doesn't happen enough. Insist that he go see a doctor for low libido. Maybe it's his choice of food or lack of exercise or God know what else. The important thing is to work with him.
You might also want to lose weight or change your hairstyle and buy a sexy negligee' and flaunt it in front of him. Do a belly dance while you feed him grapes. Write him a letter disclosing your deepest sexual wishes that you want him to satisfy.
After you have done all that you can do (write it all down), if no results...then leave him. Don't cheat. Just prepare the way for you to obtain what you want the proper way. Good luck!
2006-07-09 21:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a younger boy-toy like me to keep a spring in your step. 3 times a year ?????? That's like non-existant. I have a 44 year old gf that I can't keep my hands off of and we have hot sex at least 5 or 6 nights/mornings a week. I think you need to find some action on the side !!!
2006-07-09 21:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's something he is not telling you. Its all about trust and communication. It could be any number of things, reasons as to why his sex drive is so low, and He must have an idea of the answer but he's not sharing that with you. You have to talk.
2006-07-09 21:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's gotta prob........innuendos dont mean anything. Other than a glorified lie. Sounds like he's gotta problem that he's not communicationg to you.
Have you ever checked his manhood, when you think that he should be sufficiently aroused?
2006-07-09 21:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or, he's having E.D. and needs Viagra an hour before on an empty stomach.
2006-07-09 21:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to get some toys! He'll have trouble sleeping with the vibration......you hope!
2006-07-09 21:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should now introduce toys into your play time. they work wonders.
2006-07-09 21:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by salembog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋