i was told that to live in harmony with others is the best way, but why does it seem like i always get into trouble with trying to live in harmony? i always try to be friendly with people who are trying to be friends with me, but sometimes some of them ends up with the notion that we are already close, and would begin acting familiar with me, when in truth we're not yet close and that their behavior offends me a lot. how can i tell these people to remember their place?
2006-07-09 13:42:42 · 7 answers · asked by Inquirer 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
i wasn't being too friendly. i just talk to them when i am being spoken to...
2006-07-09 14:02:50 · update #1
If someone actually TOUCHES you......that is too familiar. But short of that......most people will be flirting with you rather than trying to offend you.
Your premise of "living in harmony" with others may be the problem, for you, at least. Maybe all of that "harmony" stuff doesn't fit your TRUE personality !!
If keeping others at a distance feels more comfortable to you.....then by all means....keep people at arms length until you know them well enough to let them closer.
Personal space issues are real. Even verbal issues.
Stop pretending to be friendly if it ends up with you feeling offended and put upon.
Be yourself......tell people to back off !!!
2006-07-10 16:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by TeaSwami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are being too friendly and it isn't that persons fault. You should take a look at your behavior also. I'm not trying to be rude but if it happens often then it might not pay to be so friendly.
2006-07-09 20:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by 2¢ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember their place, as in they are socially below you? Am I to interpret this question to mean your being nice to those "lesser" than you? Some people have different interpretations of friends and what they are supposed to and allowed to do. Either stick with people that are aware of and respect those bounderies or make these bounderies clear from the onset.
2006-07-09 20:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds supiciously like you do not know yourself sufficiently well for you to know or cope with relationships.
If people are prepared to be close to you and you are uncomfortable with it then it is not their problem with being over friendly but your problem with being unable to let people close
2006-07-20 06:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by ram_lovely007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds supiciously like you do not know yourself sufficiently well for you to know or cope with relationships.
If people are prepared to be close to you and you are uncomfortable with it then it is not their problem with being over friendly but your problem with being unable to let people close.
2006-07-09 20:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging with weirdos. Intellectuals should only be approached with caution. If you are not an intellectual, then you are at the mercy of those you 'hang' with.
2006-07-09 20:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by sean1201 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree with extowgrunt and david.
2006-07-09 21:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by marcilee1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋