Ok here is my situation. Few days ago there was a huge party at my bf's place. There were around 40 people there. Ofcourse all of us were drunk. One of the guys, roomate's friend was hitting on me. When there was nobody around, he kissed me, i kissed him back. Few hours later, he came on to me again, and tried to kiss me again, by that time i was already sober, it didnt happen again. I love my bf to death and i would never want to hurt him. As about the kiss, i did enjoy it. It felt different. What have I done? I know my bf was right there in the other room, or at least somewhere close by. What does this mean?
2006-07-09 13:22:38 · 24 answers · asked by sandy02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know my bf would kill that guy if he saw us. He cares alot about me, he told me before if he finds out something it will not be good.
2006-07-09 13:31:08 · update #1
It means you were drunk and you let your inhibitions run away with you. Don't sweat it. If this guy starts to come on to you again, tell him you're not interested & that you were drunk & weren't thinking right and he shouldn't have tried to take advantage of the situation. If he never brings it up, then all's the better.
2006-07-09 13:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would like to say that the alcohol had something to do with it, but you obviously knew what you were doing. Don't know if your boyfriend saw or not, but it was still wrong. If you love someone as you say you do, even alcohol is no excuse for kissing someone else. Of course it felt different, everyone's kiss is different. At least you refrained from the kiss when you were sober, so I applaud you for that. That should tell you that you should not drink to the point where you get drunk.
All I can say is next time there is a party or you are out try to know your limit in drinking. When you love someone even that kiss could be considered betrayal, and alcohol is no excuse. It could have been far worse if your boyfriend saw you.
2006-07-09 20:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be either of 2 things.
1 you were drunk and it meant nothing, That your reading too much into it.
2. Something is missing in your current relationship and it either needs to be found and patched or ended. You cant stay in a relationship as is with something missing. Its not fair to either of you.
However you do show extreme guilt. That means that you do still love your boyfriend and you either have to cut down on the drinking or find out whats missing and fix it before things get worse. Also remember it was just a kiss. Its not like you actually did anything of real harm to your relationship.
2006-07-09 20:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Betty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you were drunk and your judgement was impaired, only you have the answer, if you want to keep your relationship you have a lot of things to consider:
Do you think your BF will leave you if you tell him?
If you don't tell him, is there another way for him to find out?
How did that kiss feel different? Are you into this other guy?
2006-07-09 20:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends, do you think that your relationship is strong enough to be able to weather this storm? If the answer to that question is no, then don't tell him.
Also, don't tell him just because your conscience is bugging you, or because you think that it'll make you feel better about yourself. You've got another person's feelings to think about here.
Try to put yourself into his place for a second, would you honestly want to know about something like that? what purpose would it serve to know about that if it really meant nothing and it was just two drunk kids acting on impulse.
If you feel that your boyfriend would relly want to know, and that he's mature enough to handle news like that, and you feel that you're prepared for the consequences not just of telling him, but the consequences of your actions as well, then go ahead and tell him.
Lastly, if you think that the friend will tell him, then you better tell him before that happens.
2006-07-09 20:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Michael L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always gets back!! So the best thing you can do is say something to him but in a different way. Kinda play it off and say this guy at the party kissed you and you didn`t want to say anything but you don`t want to keep things from him either. Just play it off like it was nothing and you ignored it. If you don`t tell him and he finds out later he will never trust you again. Just tell him that it`s been bothering you and you need to get it off your chest. Like I said if he finds out from someone else all hell will break loose. I know if that happened to my wife and I found out later from someone else that would be it and it would be over!!
2006-07-09 20:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXXXX Sober or not you broke the unspoken rules of a relationship. I think you should tell your boyfriend the truth and not to make the excuse that you were drunk. Alchohol makes it easier to do the things we really want to do. If his friend was a disgusting, smelly, rotten teeth pervert, you would have turned him down,You weren't drunk enough to remember how good his kiss was. You are just as wrong as his friend. If I were him I'd kick you to the curb and move on to someone more trustworthy. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-09 20:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you kissed him back, twice, and you were sober the second time? Was he still drunk? If so, forget about it. It might mean that he thought you were his gf, and that he loves you. But being that he was drunk, he probably forgot about it by the time he sobered, and when he saw his gf, probably told her he thought he saw her there. You should stick with your current bf, until something goes wrong.
2006-07-09 20:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means that you are not truly ready to be in a monogamous relationship.
It is quite normal to be curious about sexual feelings toward other people and to want to explore those feelings, It is not normal to pretend that you do not have these feelings or to attempt to justify your lack of supressing those feelings by saying you were drunk.
You must tell your boyfriend what happened and allow him to decide if he is ok with what you did, Lying or withholding information is a good indicator that your relationship is not going to last.
2006-07-09 20:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by chubbiguy40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just liked the danger of it. Let go of the guilt, and tell your boyfriend the whole story. And really point out the fact that you were drunk, and how bad you feel about it. He should really understand. If he really loves you he'll get passed it without braking a sweat.
2006-07-09 20:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by sixnow25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋