how to raise a teenage boy through a terrible divorce?

Answer 1

Unfortunately I have gone through this. The best thing to do is to encourage him to have a relationship with his mother and for her to help him cultivate one with you if she has custody. Do not isolate him or talk about the bad things about his mother, but help him to understand why the marriage did not work and let him know that both of you love him very much.

Answer 2

Make sure he understands that it is not his fault that you are getting the divorce and that it does not affect your love for him. Do your best to support his mother as an authority figure in his life even if you aren't happy with her as a mate. Continue to spend time with him but understand that teenagers often want to spend time with their friends too. Go to his games, special events and be there for support. Don't make him choose between you and his mother or you and his friends. Be ready to make compromises with your schedule. Understand that there may be some anger there so be careful of how much you put on his shoulders in the early going. For example, if you get into another relationship, go easy at first and let him get used to the other person. He may have difficulty adjusting to a lot of new changes. Finally, be open for questions but don't force them.

Answer 3

Divorce can be a tough thing I went through my mom haveing 2 of them, one when I was an infant and another when I was 13. It can be messy, upsetting and very stresful. The best thing to do is to point out that it's not his fault and he did nothing wrong. Do activites together. If counsely is needed don't be afraid to seek it. Sometimes school grades may drop, don't get angry and help to find him help for difficult things. Encourage him to hang out with friends and be active within the school. Regardless of personal relations with the ex, if he desires a relationship with them and it's possible to have one encourage visiting them. Don't talk poorly about the other parent.

Answer 4

Hey, I raised my son by myself from the time that I caught his mother screwing around with 7 different guys..
Let me tell you, that it was not any fun being a single parent.

A boy is really hard.. He will resent you having a boyfriend.

Donot yell at him. Always talk to him, ALWAYS pay close attention to who he is with and where he is going. Try the Boy Scouts, Big Brother, anything, Always let him know that you care. Always see that he gets 8 hours of sleep. Always check his school work.
Never tell him how bad his Father is.
Best of luck

Answer 5

YOU BOTH need to remember who are the parents! And when it comes to your child no matter what differences you have with your wife, you need to set them aside where your child is concerned. Otherwise you both are going to have resentment from him.

You both need to be there for him, and you BOTH need to respect each other in FRONT of him.

The divorce is between you two, you are not divorcing your child, you need to be the parent you were before this all started.

Answer 6

Raise him like you would have if you werent divorced. If he is a teen, he should be old and mature enough to understand what just happened.

Answer 7

the boy might be under depression
if the boy starts to make achivements, he will be happier again
try to send him to a good school, like a private school
i am being sent to a private school that costs 3,000 bucks a month
im 12

Answer 8

open communication..be a friend...but be a parent too..talk to him about anything even about the divorce but be objective about it..let him understand the situation...treat him like an adult..give him time to heal by himself...more patience too :)..just love him...that all that matters..once he knows adn feels it,then you'll be ok :)

Answer 9

Difficult situation. For sure, do not unload on him against the ex. Do your best to speak well of her.

Answer 10

Give it up for adoption.