From what I could find online, "questioning" is the step before "coming out" as gay. Someone I am dating was questioning, but he now says he is straight. I don't know whether or not to believe him, because I am a girl and I do not want a gay boyfriend.
2006-07-09 13:05:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no i wood not go there he could go back an its hard to know
2006-07-09 13:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you / how old is he? If he is questioning his sexuality with you I would say that is a flag, a rainbow flag at that! If he now says he is straight, he is at the very least confused. As a gay person I ave never met anyone who "now chooses to be straight" that isn't just kidding themselves. Give him time he will sort it out, but the real questions is whether you want to be part of the sorting and what role you want to play in it. As a gay man, at the very least I beg you don't just cast him aside. Be kind.
2006-07-09 20:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... it's more like they realize that they are straight rather than decide to be, but the thought's right.
I would say there are more steps. There is questioning, then wondering, then denial,kind of like the 5 stages of death... the death of the closeted self.
I would say that more likely than not, if he identifies as straight, he probably is. He is the only one who can really know.
Males often have difficulty understanding why they feel emotional about other men -- our culture doesn't really prepare us for that. I think the very fact that he questioned and wondered is going to make him a better, more sensitive person.
2006-07-10 01:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by blueowlboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that;s an interesting question because...if a person is questioning their sexuality, they obviously have some sort of feelings for people of the same sex. So how can they honestly choose to BE straight...they can choose to live a STRAIGHT lifestlye, only if they are bi-sexual. I don;t think men who ar 100% gay can just act straight forever. I could be wrong but I just don;t see it. Women are more capable of doing that then men, since women can "fake it" etc.
I think what is important is can you trust him? How long have you been together? Even if he is bi-sexual do you think he can/will remain monogamous to you? Are you willing to support him through his confusion? Do YOU think he is telling you the truth?
If you do trust this man, then do just that, trust him. But I would be cautious of signs that he may be leading a "sectret life". Not overly suspicious but don;t be blind to the signs either.
2006-07-09 20:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh and it sooo follows a step by step method (dripping sarcasm)
There are bicurious people all over the world. Many of them will NEVER attempt same sex liaisons.
Depending on how old you and your boyfriend are (the throes of adolescence can cloud one's judgment) - you either believe him and run the risk that he's lying to both you and himself or you don't; in which case he won't be your boyfriend.
Be advised there are very few totally straight people in this world most straight people have a (very) slight leaning towards homosexuality.
2006-07-10 11:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No!
In my time of going to school as a boy when you had 1 experience with the same sex you were black listed everyone knew, you would have to beat someone up to get your dignity back.
Depending on if you like this person as a friend or husband if you are thinking of marrying him then a real deep thought has to occur, if you are just dating boys, then why worry about it.
But be cautious not to Black list your friend, gossip will come back on you hard as people will know you can't keep your mouth shut, because people don't recover easily after something like being black listed.
2006-07-09 20:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by denverthanks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People that are questioning do not always turn out to be a lesbian, gay, or bisexual. Questioning means that they are just thinking about it. Questioning is natural. If someone is questioning then they may find out they are gay or straight... or bi but I won't give you that door to chose from too.
2006-07-09 20:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do people who are questioning their sexuality ever decide to be gay?
Seriously, this is a ridiculous question. Just because you're not sure of your sexuality doesn't mean you're automatically gay, just like it doesn't mean that you're automatically straight. He wanted to see if he was interested in men and apparently, he's not.
2006-07-09 20:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone questions it at some point in life, whether for a few minutes or many years. If he says he's straight believe him until you see him checking other guys out.
2006-07-09 20:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by commandermaxillius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can question themselves and then descover that they are actually straight (or gay). It is normal to be confused at some point and question your sexuality.... but in the end you will just 'know' wether you are gay or straight or even bi.
2006-07-09 20:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by DJ Fizzy xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 100% straight (never even been attracted to a guy at all) and I question my sexuality continually. I wish I were bisexual. I am mad that I can only appreciate the sexual attractiveness of half the human race.
2006-07-09 20:08:26 · answer #11 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋