We had some hard times last year. But we made owr way through it. I am 50 and he is 40. I dont look my age. I try to take care of my self. He is not working, I support us for now. I hope things will get better in time. But it hurts my feelings.
2006-07-09 12:52:41 · 14 answers · asked by kitycheeks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think he is depressed.....his wife earns the living in the family. He is most likely not getting enough physical exercise. Tell him to go tomorrow, find him a job, get some exercise, then you and him, get it on! He will be excited about new work, and money he's making. He feels like he is failing you....that has him depressed. A job will help.
2006-07-09 13:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving him Yohimbe. Maybe he's just tired. Talk to him and see if there is a physical problem. Does he come home late? There might be a warning sign there. Watch films together that generate the right idea for him. And if all else fails, there are devices on the market that can replace him on those off days.
Seriously, talk to him before this becomes a really big problem in your marriage.
2006-07-09 12:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey well i would ask him what the matter is and if he says that he just doesn't feel it as much as before than i would say that u should either try to find a new way to get some action in the relationship or just try to do sumthing both of yall enjoy so that activity can take the place of sex (but try it and if that don't work than satisfy urself and reject him when he wants it the most)
2006-07-09 13:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to learn why. Is his decreased interest really a way to cover up concerns about getting or maintaining an erection? Are things good in other areas of marriage or suffering there too?
2006-07-09 14:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful that you try "to take care of yourself."
However, if your husband is 40 and unemployed you are facing self-esteem problems.
He is not where he hoped to be at this point in his life.
This disappointment in life will definitely lead to poor performance in the bedroom.
There is not a whole lot you can do except be positive and supportive ...though not overly so.
He needs to feel a sense of accomplishment, some self-worth.
2006-07-09 13:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work is a huge issue for men. Many men have their identities wrapped up in what they do for a living. If he is out of work, he may be depressed. This can affect his sexual appetite. It may not have anything to do with you. Do your best to support him emotionally and let him know that you love him regardless of the situation. He may need some outside help to deal with depression. A visit to his doctor may rule out any medical causes for his lack of sexual interest. It may also help him get some medical help for depression or at least a referral to a therapist.
2006-07-09 13:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this, it drives men crazy and it helps to test him to see if he is just too insecure with himself. Let him hear you pleasure yourself, and don't half step or be shy about it, put on a show! While you relieve your own stress, if he doesn't jump in something is wrong. I do this all the time, if the man I am dating doesn't fullfill my needs this allows you to see if he can override his ego and focus on your needs for once
2006-07-09 13:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people have low sex drive...did you think he was going to get better with age??? You need to back up and gain some perspective here. He is not rejecting you, he just doesn't do the sex thing that often.
2006-07-09 12:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he be on medications that make him this way?
Antidepressants can do this, stress can also, but if he is not working he may not be stressed and just going for a Ride!!!
2006-07-09 13:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, what a shame. I am over a million dollars in debt and you think you have a problem!!!!!!Geez
2006-07-09 13:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋