My ex leaves messages on my home and mobile phone voice mail as well as texting horribly insulting, at time sexually expicit, always belittling messages. Obviously, I know it is wrong and needs to be stopped. His behavior and thought processes are so delusional at times that it truly makes me fear for my own safety. Very Scott Peterson like. I can not get a restraining order I was told unless he does something that would warrant a police report. What are my options? Remember that I am not dealing with a person who is able to make good choices on even a semi consistant basis.
2006-07-09 12:30:35 · 15 answers · asked by newstart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well.. the actions of him sending those messages should be enough for the police to understnd that this person is not of the right character to be around you.. Take all mesages to the police and file for your safety restraining order against this person who is cyber harrasing you..
Just because he is up to technology and the police department isn't doesn't mean there is justification to deny you safety.. after all if these messages were left in your physical mailbox they would be legit and damning against him.. tell the police to get with the times and know that these messages hold JUST as much value as a phone call that can be traced.
2006-07-09 12:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Craptacular Wonderment 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to record everything he says on the voice mail or some how copy your text messaging, this way if he does
try something it's all recorded. If you can buy some equipment
to record inside and out just in case he's try's to break in. You must not doubt that he'll try doing something bad. I hear on the
news alot,whats going on with the ex , either hurting, or killing their ex.take this serious. Talk to your kids and let them know what really going on. Let them know if something goes wrong to ex cape and to call for help(911). Also you need to talk to your neighbors
and let them know if they were to see him doing something wrong
to dial 911. Everyone needs to know about this Man. You don't
need to tell him anything re: your plans. Look around your surroundings, know where your kids are at all times. Hire a Private investigator so you'll know were he is all the time. (that's
only if you can afford it). Good Luck and I pray everything turns
out all right for you and your children.
2006-07-09 19:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is bull crap take your phone to your local sheriffs or police department and let the hear the messages they should and better give you a restraining order on him...
Also check with your phone companies and see if they can block the calls....Talk with someone at the court house...
Some one will do something about it...Don't give up and don't take that from him even if you have to call the police after every phone call...
Good luck to you GET-R-DONE
2006-07-09 19:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your options are: 1. Report yoru ex.
2. Change your phone number.
3. Move.
4. Do both #2 and #3.
5. Do #1 and # 2.
6.Do all of the above.
2006-07-09 19:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a mediator and have it written into your divorce agreement that all harrassing phone calls will stop. Save the tapes of his calls as they may be helpful later on. Harrassment is illegal in some states so find out for sure that nothing can be done at this time. Get that statement in writing.
2006-07-09 20:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife did the same thing. I have custody of our children cuz she is an alcoholic. I have a restraining order. She cannot contact me for any reason other then an emergency situation with the kids. Get a restraining order!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-09 19:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tony J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by blocking his numbers from both your phones. This should do away with the messages. Then watch your back. You must keep your guard up with this kind of person. When you have to have dealings with him (ie. exchange of children, etc) make sure that you have someone with you. Be safe.
2006-07-09 19:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, I would change my mobile and home number, and give the new number out to people I know, would never give the number to him. Sometimes we can have friends who are also friends with our ex's.
Unless he is threatening to do bodily harm to you or your kids, you cannot really get the police involved, but you can complain to the phone company. But I would just change my numbers and be done with it.
Maybe when he gets such and such number is no longer in service, he will stop. Good luck!
2006-07-09 19:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by tiravellian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an attorney. Also, keep a diary/journal about what is happening. Don't say anything emotional - keep it factual. Write down dates and times this is occurring. A diary/journal is admissable evidence in Court - unlike hearsay. Try to have a witness.
2006-07-09 19:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by herbst01k23h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just the sexual harrasment should be enough to warrant a restraining order. Talk with a lawyer for specifics in your state.
2006-07-09 19:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by norwood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋