weve been trying to have our second child for about 9 months now.no luck!!!but almost every week i found out that someone else we know-a coworker, friend or family member is pregnant.nothing is physically wrong with us,and weve had a previous healthy full term pregnancy that resulted in our 4 year old.im getting depressed and i almost feel like everyone else is doing this(getting pregnant)to hurt me or make me jealous!!!is that crazy????
2006-07-09 12:14:14 · 11 answers · asked by callalily07 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
>>the question should be why arent we??? sorry typing too fast!!!
2006-07-09 12:14:59 · update #1
>>>>i want real answers please!!not just people trying to get points!!!any real advice is appreciated!!!
2006-07-09 12:27:31 · update #2
I feel the same way my husband and I have been trying for a little over three months. We have a 4 year old everything was fine throughout my pregnancy and birth. We know about 10 people right now who are pregnant and I am so jealous. A friend of mine gave me a little advice. She told me that babies come when they want to come. No matter how hard we try it will happen when the man up stairs decides it's the right time. Everything is already predetermined how many kids we will have and their genders. So when it is the right time you will get the good news. And if it never does happen be thankful for the one you already have!
2006-07-09 12:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Angela R 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It is very normal to feel depressed and jealous when you are trying (unsuccessfully) to get pregnant and it seems that the whole world is doing it. However, only your perception has changed (just like when you are sad, tons of sad songs seem to be on the radio, or when you are trying to get a relationship and everyone and their mother is getting hooked up or engaged or married).
You say that there is nothing "physically wrong" with either of you, but it has been four years since you had a baby. Have you been checked out recently by your ob/gyn? You may have some infertility problems (which is not too uncommon for second pregnancies). I don't know how old you are, but infertility is defined as "not being able to become pregnant, despite trying for one year, in women under age 35, or after six months in women 35 and over." So, you and your hubby may want to have some tests done, or at least consult with your ob/gyn or a fertility specialist.
One other thought - have you started charting your basal body temperature? Having a month or two of those readings would help if you end up going to a specialist.
Above all, try not to freak out too much - I know it is very hard not to, but the more you stress, the less likely you are to get pregnant. My husband and I tried for 5 years to get pregnant, and like many other stories, once we relaxed (actually, we gave up and figured we were not meant to be blessed with a baby)...I got pregnant and now have a wonderful 2 year old.
All the best of luck to you!!!!!!!!
2006-07-09 20:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure nobody is getting pregnant just to make you jealous or hurt you. You are probably too focused on becoming pregnant.Go out for a romantic dinner,have some wine and forget about babies for the night.If you constantly think about it and are stressing over it,that could be why you're not concieving
2006-07-09 19:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cool to want kids. I don't think it's crazy to be a little envious, but don't let it get out of hand.
Just keep trying and enjoy the love-making. It's a good way for both your hubby and yourself to share intimacy and bond together.
Good luck.
2006-07-09 19:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tristan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down take a deep breath u and ur husband should try diff postions try holding ur legs in the air for 5 mins i know this sounds weird but trust me maybe u have finally gotten pregnant and u r having mood swings with the family im sure they are not donig it on purpose to hurt u take a deep breath i know its hard but just keep trying and trust me legs in the air works.....good luck hun and take a deep breath
2006-07-09 19:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by mommyof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Have you discussed this with your OB/GYN? Secondary infertility is not uncommon, and you should be able to get support and advice from your Dr.
2) Read "taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wechsler
3) Visit www.tryingtoconceive.com -- great site!!!
2006-07-09 20:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by TexasMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those wierd things... like when you buy a red car and suddenly all you see are red cars. Hold on, and try to remember that the babies we're supposed to have will come our way, one way or another. Good luck!
2006-07-09 19:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by craftladyteresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They thought my couson couldn't have kids then one day we were all at my grandma's for something and she got a call saying Jenny was pregnant. And they thought she couldn't have kids and all of a sudden she got pregnant. So let nature take it's course.
2006-07-09 19:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your trying to had, relax and let nature take its course. Good Luck
2006-07-09 19:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one answer.
God only gives you what you can handle.
2006-07-09 23:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋