I worked with this girl for about 5 months at my previous job. we worked at a very slow paced job so we didn't really have much else to do but to talk and get to know eachother. I would help her with some problems that she was having at the time (i'm always up for helping others out) anyway, from there she got this notion that we were "best friends" telling even her family that lives 100's of miles whom i have never even spoken a word to that i am her best friend. It is starting to make me really uncomfortable because i have never once encouraged it to go this far. what am i supposed to do? i already told her that i don't consider her as My best friend seeing that we really don't have anything in common. But all she says is "it doesn't matter, even if i'm not your best friend, You are my best friend"!! I say PSYCHO! what do you think? and how should i handle this??? Thanks for your help!
2006-07-09 12:00:25 · 13 answers · asked by andi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i agree with starlight to a point cuz usually it wouldn't bother me, but i forgot to tell ya that this person is 10 yrs older than me, she always calls or wants to stop by, and she has just recently invited me to go on a weekend with her to meet her family! I dont throw the word "friend" around loosely seeing that i only have two ppl that i would even consider telling all my problems to. Those are just a few things that makes this uncomfortable to me. thanx for your help!
2006-07-09 12:13:25 · update #1
i think you should tell her how you feel and if she trys to manipulate you and make you feel sorry for her she is definately a leech and you should get her out of your life cut the strings baby for good
2006-07-09 12:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by lady heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a little weird....and lonely. Just make sure she doesn't cross any lines as far as spying on you or showing up unexpectedly. And, if you get the opportunity, have a serious talk and point out that she is actually driving you away by not respecting your wishes not to refer to you as "Best Friend". She may or may not be psycho, but time will tell. But, as far as age goes...I am 34 and one of my best friens is 26. And when I was 22, I dated a guy who was 40. I don't think age is the issue. you either like someone or you don't.
2006-07-23 13:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation this person says im her best friend just because we have known eachother since 83 not from school back then i never saw her i just knew who she was shes kind of selfish and counts everything never shares
now she lives with my husband and i the i put my friends in very high regard we are always there for eachother and share everything not spouses though
i think i would tell her that i felt uncomfortable and that i would like to decide who my best friends are and that it's pretty personal
just be nice about it and try not to hurt her
i told her it's up to me who i say is my best friend
2006-07-23 18:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually i think you should feel privileged that your help and your responses have had such a impact on her.its not as if shes stalking you or showing up when your with other friends right? when she said to you don't matter you are mine. with that said that's your answer your hers she don't have to be yours.let her have this bit of happiness she must really need it to have responded that way to you she is a better person then i because i would have been a bit offended because you felt the need to inform me i wasn't yours.she wasn't asking you to be she was simply saying you were hers.just think about that for a while. try to see how she feels and how her life is or was to be so needy.
2006-07-09 19:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with starlight 2 being some1's B/friend is a privalge. Don't take it in a bad way and it doesn't mean she has 2 b ur b/friend too.
2006-07-23 00:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously very needy and that is probably what is making you uncomfortable.
Because she appears to have taken a shine to you and is lonely you'll have to let her down easily so that you don't destroy her already fragile self-concept. Try to limit your conversations with her and be flattered that she likes you as a friend.
Does it really matter what she says to other people?
2006-07-22 19:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are her best friend. Maybe you are her only friend. She doesn't have to be yours. Tell her "No! I'm not going anywhere with you to meet your parents, I have friends my own age I like to hang out with." Also tell her "You're my friend, I like talking to you, You're fun to work with, but I don't want to Pal around with you all the time. It's nothing against you, it's just MY preference." I hope this will work out for you. You don't want to hurt her, but you don't want her up your butt either. If this doesn't work, you may HAVE to hurt her feelings.
2006-07-22 21:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by smommeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just because she states that you are her best friend don't mean it has to go both ways. To her you may be her best friend but to you she is just another person. Be nice and just smile when she says stuff like that I mean its not like its ganna hurt anything but her if you say something about it.
2006-07-22 11:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
<> Then what are you doing here?
2006-07-21 19:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say this person is pathetic, lonely and has no life!
You obviously made an impact on this person.....but it should not be a problem unless you let yourself be accessible in communications with this person!
2006-07-23 06:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋