What can I DO!?!?!?

Question

What can i do to talk more around people... I am kinda shy, and i always am really quiet in groups of people. I talk, but ONLY if someone else talks to me... What can i do?

ESPECIALLY AROUND GUYS I AM SUPER QUIET

PLEASE HELP!!!!

Answer 1

I know how you feel - I am very shy, especially around people I like. Advice which is often given to me is the following.

Good places to start conversations are where you can talk about something which is happening - for example, at the bar you could mention to the person beside you that the bar isn't usually so busy, or ask them if it is usually that busy if it is somewhere you haven't been before.

Ask lots of questions to people - show an interest in them. People like to talk about themselves, in general. Ask about what they like to do, films, music, anything. Or, even just random things - what their favourite biscuit is, can start a fun conversation! And then you'll be remembered too!

If you really don't want to start conversations, then you need to look approachable. Smile at people, and try to use "open" body language - don't cross your arms in front of you, for example.

Above all, I think you need to try and have more confidence in yourself, and if you try and talk to someone and it doesn't go very well, then you need to just forget about it and try again - you won't get on with everyone, but you will get on with some people.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I tend to do the same things to and the internet it is easier because we are not placed in view of someone else. When i go out I usually meet people by looking around the room finding what I think would be a good person or group to approach and easing my way up to say hello. If they want to talk to you they will say hello back if they do not they tend to give you looks. I am sure you know what I mean. Things like how are ya, where are ya'll from, How long have ya been coming here, how old are ya'll and stuff like that works. I have met some really good people that I am still friends with till this day that way. I know it is hard but I have faith in ya. GOOD LUCK!!!!!

Answer 3

Well, I have always been a shy person. Back when I was younger I almost never spoke to anyone. Then one day I was giving an oral report in a high school english class. When I was done the teacher asked me to stay after class. I figured holy cr@p! I must have really messed this thing up. After class was over, she came over to me and told me I had one of the smoothest, mellow, relaxing voices she had ever heard from a high school student. This compliment really hit home for me! She asked why I did not talk more in class or even out with friend. I told her I really did not know why, it was just how I am. I went home that day and thought about whast she had said. That compliment was just the motivation I needed to "come out of my shell". After that you could not shut me up. As a matter of fact, my senior year of highschool I got accepted to college, and began working at the campus radio station, while I was still finishing up high school. I graduated college with a degree in Media Communications, and have been working in radio ever since. People that knew me when I was younger still cant believe I made radio my lifes work.

The thing I hope you get out of my story is even if you may be shy right now, it does not mean that you will be shy forever. You just need to find that thing that breaks you "out of your shell" and opens up a whole new fun world to you. I wish you the best of luck in your search to find how to talk to people. Just remember, if I was able to overcome my shyness, you should be able to eventually do it with no problem! Just work at your own pace. There is nothing wrong with being a little shy, but once you become more comfortable speaking in groups, you will find that social interaction can be both educational, and fun!

Good luck!

Answer 4

A great way to start a conversation is to compliment someone on something..when your in a social scene just walk up to someone you want to talk to and say something like your hair looks great today, or are those new shoes...ect...
People love to be noticed and they will want to tell you how they got that great hair do or where they got there shoes, you'll find people you have things in common with and you'll show people what a nice personyou are. Take interest in people around you and they will take interest in you. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Spend a few minutes each day thinking about topics, then reward yourself every time you try to go up to someone and start a conversation, or even if you just smile and say hi.

Answer 6

OK
first how old r u?
second take classes like acting or places where u don't know anybody
third
practice talking in front of the mirror
by the way thanks for 2 points
glad could help

Answer 7

I used to be shy to. I think chatting on the internet is the best thing to get over it. Worked for me. Good luck.

Answer 8

Make an effort to learn about what people do, like, and have going on in their lives, by listening carefully. When you see them again ask them about something that u learned about them, Be a friend to make friends.

Answer 9

Really! I am the exact same way with chicks. Good question!

Answer 10

one thing that makes you shy is that you are very aware of your surroundings.This is hard to overcome.Its part of your personality..You may always be that way.A good shot of vodka helps.