she thinks i be cheating on her 24/7 how would you handle that? yes i cheated before be i am trying to walk the right road now but she want let up
2006-07-09 11:56:53 · 8 answers · asked by jasmine1014u 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you cheated specifically on her before, then, you will need to earn her trust back. Keep being righteous, be honest and direct, let her know what you are up to and check in with her when she does not expect it. It shows you care and are trying. Patience and time are your best allies.
Good luck.
2006-07-16 10:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's simple.
Once a cheater, usually ... always a cheater.
It's the "usually" your girlfriend is worried about.
When you cheated the first time, you broke the trust she had in you.
Trust is what a healthy relationship is all about.
It's gonna take a l-o-n-g time for her to get over the insecurity.
If you really care about her and it's worth it, you're just gonna have to put up with it until she trusts you again. And that means NO CHEATING, ever again.... no matter what temptations there are.
If you think you are gonna cheat.... or that it might be a possibility do it in the future, you two are better off calling it quits right now.
'Cause there ain't nothing worse than a relationship without trust.
2006-07-09 19:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by Primrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesbians have a problem with trust and if you've cheated before it will take her a while to trust you again. I mean quite some time
2006-07-10 11:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by perfect.enemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's interesting you asked this question because I am stuck in this problem myself at the moment...it's difficult because if you don't have any proof then you can never be sure if someone is cheating or not because it's one person's word against another person's word...if both people are insecure, it probably won't work out...unfortunately, and if for some reason you love both your girlfriend and the other person that you are cheating on her with, then ultimately you won't be able to be with both of them because someone will eventually break up with you over it.
2006-07-09 20:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by rainbowlicious7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you did it to yourself. It's going to take time for her to be able to build that trust back up. Just stay honest with her, don't act weird when certain people call. Hell, let her check your voicemails on your phone, or have her sit with you while you're checking your e-mail. When I first met my fiancee I was a bit iffy because he was divorced and his ex used to e-mail him all the time. But he always made sure I was there when he read it, he would let me answer his phone and ask me to check his messages for him, just so I knew there was nothing going on. It was a huge help for me to trust him.
2006-07-09 19:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in all kinds of relationships are jealous. Since you cheated before, you need to show her (not just tell) that it won't ever happen again.
2006-07-09 19:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you have to earn trust and once you have lost what you have earned it is much harder if not impossible to get it back. I hope it works out for you!
2006-07-09 19:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Augie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a gf like that, she was so controlling and always thought i was cheating even tho i didnt. they never change
2006-07-09 19:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋