Do you think thresomes are healthy for a relationship?

Answer 1

Depends on the kind of relationship "health" yearned for. Put simply, although it could be "healthy" in some respects, it would be unhealthy in others. For instance, it may be fine with regards to the health of sexual intimacy, but probably not encourage the health of emotional intimacy. What matters is whether or not it would be unhealthy in a way that bothers the particular people involved. And that can be tricky to determine.

There can be many components to a relationship; trust, passion, novelty, communication, etc. Each component tends to be filtered through and shaped by (and in turn, shape) each of the relationship's different areas of intimacy. Three areas might include, sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, and intellectual intimacy. Moreover, each area tends to have its own individual degree of development, or "health". So, the healthier or more developed each "area", or type of intimacy becomes, the more opportunities there are to experience how the different components to the relationship, such as passion or trust, are shaped for the relationship in question. So for instance, if the sense of trust in the relationship is filtered through a healthy degree of emotional intimacy, but then also through a less healthy degree of intellectual intimacy, one might intensify their trust that their partner truly wants, in a heartfelt way, to understand the other, but may also reduce their trust in whether or not their partner actually has the kind of mentality to be able to understand them. Moreover, if trust is filtered through a healthy degree of sexual intimacy, perhaps they would definitely trust that their partner will satisfy them without being too inhibited, rough, or physically estranged to do so.

Thus, in addressing the threesome scenario with respect to all of these interplaying factors, I would posit that such an endeavor of "passion" could only thrive in a healthy degree of sexual intimacy when the relationship's degree of emotional intimacy is somehow partially shut down, reduced, or dissociated from through, perhaps, efforts of emotional compartmentalization, and, thus, not as "healthy". Furthermore, this will only be acceptable to all parties involved if they all happen to be less interested in building the health of their relationship's said emotional intimacy. In any event, a "threesome allowing" relationship would have strengths shaped in different areas than those relationships where parties involved are not wishing to sacrifice or divert any degree of progress made towards being emotionally intimate. The tricky part is how to establish that everyone involved is truly indifferent to at least temporarily reducing, postponing the pursuit of, never initially investing in, or compartmentalizing this degree of the emotional intimacy component to their relationship. And sometimes, people don't realize they aren't actually on the same page until after the deed is done. So, you have to do damage control if what's damaged turns out to be something you and/or others strongly valued after all: emotional intimacy.

So, in summation, threesomes, are not healthy for one aspect of relationships in particular, namely, developing the strength in channels of emotional intimacy in a relationship. You can still have passion, communication, even trust. But these components would not, within this scenario, strengthen emotional intimacy that's weak, and, in fact, would most likely reduce or suspend emotional intimacy that's richly developed. All the while, it will probably allow sexual and intellectual intimacy to continue its growth uninterrupted. So if everyone involved isn't as attached to the emotional aspect, or everyone involved doesn't mind trying to repair the damage it will do to that aspect, then everyone should be fine.

Answer 2

It depends on the two people in the relationship and if you are both honest with each other. You have to have a clear mind and a total understanding before you go into and know that your partner is your partner and the other person there is just there to help the fantasy. So as far as it being healthy it is up to the people involved.

Answer 3

Any time you bring a third person into the bedroom somebody is going to get hurt. The way you react to a new partner, or how your partner reacts is not going to sit well. The number of couples who can comfortably engage in threesomes without damaging their relationship is virtually none. And besides that, threesomes aren't even that fun. It doesn't usually work out the way it does in porno movies, and you end up not paying enough attention to someone, or too much attention to someone else not to mention the logistics of three bodies trying to maneuver around each other and all working together without direct communication... doesn't work.

Answer 4

If you value your relationship AT ALL, don't do that. Seriously, it sounds all good but really it sucks (and I mean that figuratively, sister). TRUST. That's an activity you want to do only with people in whom you have a passing interest. If there's love involved, you're headed for danger in a threesome.

Answer 5

Absolutely not. Under no circumstances have threesomes with anyone you are in a relationship with (ie headed toward or in a marriage). Perverted sex is what threesomes are all about. By their very nature, they are extremely unhealthy. That's why you do them in relationships you consider disposable. If you have a woman who is for sex only, consider a threesome with her. Don't screw around with threesomes with someone you are engaged to. They'll leave you afterward.

Answer 6

No. Sex is designed for couples. Threesomes are a fun experiment among folks who are not really all that close, so it won't matter when it screws up their "relationship," but they are pure death for a couple.
Sorry about that.
Post the video, though.

Answer 7

Hell no! For one it is distgusting I think that threesomes make a relationship a lot more complicated then a regular relationship.

Answer 8

In general, it probably isn't, but if I had more than 1 lady in a relationship it would be more fun.
Shane

Answer 9

no. because a healthy realationship is between two people who love each other.

Answer 10

No, not if you really love each other. Trust is a beautiful thing and if you do it in front of each other, why wouldn't you do it on your own?