What should i do i need help!!!?

Question

My boyfriend is out town and this other boy who has been my friend for two years is trying to get really close to me how do i turn him down easy but still keep him as a friend

Answer 1

OMG, I'm having the SAME problem! I've known this guy for 2 years, he's my best friend. My boyfriend is like 100 miles away, and my friend is giving me more hugs, holding my hand, complimenting me more, and he tried to kiss me the other day! I just told him that I loved him, but as a friend. I said he was my best friend and I wanted it to stay that way. And I told him how much I loved my boyfriend and I wanted to be faithful to him. I told him that he was a great guy and that he would have no problem finding a girlfriend.

Answer 2

everyone is right except for one thing.. this guy is trying to get at you when you have a boyfriend. He knows you have a boyfriend and still tries. This guy is not going to stop and if he dows he wont stop wanting you, hell just be waiting so it will always be you jsut thinking of him as a friend and him thinking of you as the girl he wants. The only way to deal with this is to not be gentle. Tell him that you wont get with him and not because you have a boyfriend, but because you couldnt possibly think of him like that. He is a friend. More like a brother to you and it would be kinda sick to hook up. You have to make hime feel like you would be grossed out by the thought of hooking up with him. I've seen it played out a hundred different ways but thats the only way Ive seen it work.

Answer 3

I have had many close friendships with men in my thirty-something years of life and, unfortunately, every single one of them ended (except for one which turned into a very successful marriage) because the man eventually wanted more than friendship. It is a normal human biological truth, that if a heterosexual man likes a woman enough to be willing to put the emotional energy into being close friends with her, then there is probably an underlying attraction there that will eventually be impossible for him to ignore or deny. I hate to tell you this, but from LOTS of experience, I have found that it is close to impossible to keep a long-term male/female friendship going without it becoming more or ending all together. Women can usually keep it platonic but men usually cannot (unless they are not attracted to women). Unless you have some secret feelings for this man and are willing to give up your boy friend for him, I would end the friendship immediately before he causes problems for you and your boy friend. You can choose to stop hanging around with him and let the friendship fade away unless he stays persistent and then it is best to make a clean brake of it. If you really cannot bring yourself to end this friendship then maybe you have more feelings for this man than you are able to admit to yourself. Believe me; you are going to have to choose eventually, so it is best to do it now before the situation gets out of hand. I have many female friends over the age of thirty and none of them has a close male friendship that has lasted (unless the man was homosexual or a family member). It is ultimately up to you, so I wish you the best on whatever you decide

Answer 4

Tell him you will give him a try, but only while your BF is away. But you need to be very honest with him and make sure he understands that if you still like your BF better than him, when your BF gets back it will be all over for him.!!! That way you can have it both ways, and you might actually decide he is better than your now BF before your BF gets back. If your BF finds out about this temporary arrangement when he gets back, he will get over being upset fast, because he will realize that after you briefly "shopped around", you decided that HE is the BEST!!! Obviously there is some danger or risk in doing this, so you need to decide for yourself. But this always works for me. Good luck.

Answer 5

Just let him know that boyfriends come and boyfriends go but true friends are forever. Let him know that your relationship with him right now is great and why would you want to jeopardize it by being intimate? It's almost a fact that friends who turn into something more almost never make it and instead of losing a boyfriend you've now lost a friend.

Answer 6

Make it seem like you would be interested if your boyfriend weren't in the picture at all, but that you care about your boyfriend a lot and woulnd't like it if your bf were to hook up with his friend that's a girl. Tell him that you really like him, and you really value his friendship right now and don't want to lose him.

Answer 7

Fake an illness. Say you have to go home and go to sleep, and don't answer the phone to him.

Or just tell him that if he respects you, that he should leave you alone because he would understand what you are going through with your boyfriend out of town.

Answer 8

You can be very blunt about it. Just by saying: "I know you've been my friend now for two years and I don't wont to jeopardize it by getting close to you and I have a boyfriend that you know about. It just would seem wrong." And if he's your friend he'll understand, but if he pressures you then leave him the hell alone!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Say " look " " we been friends for what 2 years. I dont want to ruin that.Plus I have a mate already we will always be friends though"

or

Hook him up with 1 of "your" friends.


Good Luck

Answer 10

Be honest with him- tell him how good of a friend he is to you but remind him you are in a relationship! The truth is you might resent him if something ended up happening and hurting your relationship!
I feel for ya!!