2006-07-09 11:37:42 · 18 answers · asked by DAVID D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you have much of a choice in who you fall for. If you mean would I ever act on my feelings for a married man, I would say no, although it would be very hard if he also loved me. I just couldn't do that to his wife. Cheating makes a fool out of the person you're cheating on, and I couldn't take being the "other woman."
However, if he got divorced, then I would be willing to give it a go. Until he's single, no way.
2006-07-09 11:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do all that I can to run away from a man I am attracted to (not in love yet) if I knew he was married in the first place.
However, life is so that you sometimes get to know a person and feel a vibrant connection to that person, like soul mates, time when by the time you figure out that the guy is married it is already too late. You have fallen in love and unless the married man does something to hurt you, you will keep that love deep within even through the years and even if you have never made love together.
The memories of the beautiful energy and connection to that person remains even when you are far away. Believe me, it happens...no matter how hard you fight it...
2006-07-09 14:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never put yourself in the position to fall in love with married men, you will not. After 33 years of marriage, I try to avoid a lot of alone time with married men. I have even quit a job when the owner & I got to be too close a friends. Always kidding around, then one day a friend came over & talked about how hot he was - I had never paid attention & I decided it was time to leave before I was in too deep.
2006-07-09 11:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, marriage is a suppose to be a special bond. Even if you fall in love with a married man, who says this same question will not be asked by his next fallen love.
2006-07-09 12:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens all of the time, unfortunately. It almost always ends up being a sad situation where the women ends up investing years of her life only to be dissapointed and hurt.
In rare cases, the man will leave his wife, and it will work out. But, this often leads to other problems and issues. (Children?)
The key here is whether he and she are being open and honest with their other partners. If his wife knows and is okay that he has other loving relationships, and the women getting involved knows that he is *not* going to get divorced, it could be a successful Polyamorous relationship.
Unfortunately most married men cheat on their wife, and have no intention of leaving her, they are just looking for sex after the sexual aspect of their marriage declines or dissipates.
My clear guideline and advice for this is never get involved with someone who is not honest or is willing to deceive, lie or cheat on his partner. If you do, the probability is very high that your heart will be broken, and if you are the rare case where you get him, he will then cheat on you too someday.
2006-07-09 11:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Atom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is not that difficult to do. As a matter of fact, I have very strong feelings towards a married man, and I myself am married as well. It happens and it can't be helped. But what one does about it is another question...
2006-07-12 08:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Morgan Lefay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should never date a married man but, if your dumb enough to date one and then fall in love with him that is just stupid and you deserve all the pain and hurt you get
2006-07-09 12:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by bebe1028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself in a position that will end up in heartache..If a married man wants the affection of someone outside his marriage then what can he offer you?..and how could you trust him to not do the same to you if you end up together..If he is up-happy then let him be honest with his wife and end the relationship including divorce so that he can be with you if that is what you want..now if you don't care how the relationship ends up and you don't mind being a partner to hurting his family then go ahead..it's your life but give great thought to this...And further put yourself in his wife's place..would you like to be her?
2006-07-09 11:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by FloNightingGale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can and does happen a lot. It's not ideal for anyone involved--but it does happen.
Looking at the questions you have asked I'm guessing that you are not happily married? I wish I could help.
2006-07-11 06:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ralley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and lust are two different things. Maybe a guy could love a mistress. It's not loving to hurt a spouse by having an affair.
2016-03-15 21:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋