Why do people who have good spouses cheat on their mates?

Answer 1

Because they are fools. When a couple lives together, not only are the good things about the other person apparent, the "bad" things are also revealed (toothpaste caps on or off, toilet seats up or down, how they spend or save money, etc.) The cheater thinks that they need a change or they think they have somehow been "cheated" out of a better life by being stuck with this person that they somehow thought was different (they have not really changed, the partner just discovered they were human!) For some reason, the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, and so they go after what they think is a better thing - for one night, for 10 years, whatever - it is still cheating. They usually want to stay with their spouse or partner as they either love them or have grown accustomed to them, hence cheating instead of just ending the relationship. It is really not about the spouse, but about the cheater's selfish and/or envious perceptions of life and themselves and why aren't they getting what the movies and tv shows or the guy down the street who brags about his sex life are getting? Before cheating, people need to take a realistic check on what they are risking - they may think twice and spice up life with their partner instead of someone else (and enjoying life together is not just about sex, they need to remember that).

Answer 2

I think at times everyone experiences temptations and lust concerning another person of the opposite sex even when married. Often when a person yields to that temptation they are seeking physical pleasure or a restoration of feelings they thought they stopped experiencing years ago. As far as cheating and a "good spouse" many times people justify their actions because they know in their heart they will stay with their mate and they aren't going out after another person to love and leave this spouse they have lived with all that time. To them the external relationship is more like an analogy of a vacation. You at times take a vacation from reality because you want to enjoy yourself, lose yourself for a set time knowing that you need to and must return to your reality. Reality for many is that marriage and the external relationship is that vacation feeling. I'm not trying to justify anything but just trying to answer your question as best I can from what information I have come to observe.

Answer 3

That's an age old question...Cheating really sucks. The cheater does not think of what they are doing to their mate..how much it hurts...they just think of themselves...So sad...

Answer 4

Lack of excitement?? The need for something new?