I can't get over this feeling of loneliness can I get some suggestions on what I can do.?

Question

I am married to the love of my life and I have a wonderful family but something is missing.

I don't want to have an affair, I have gone to counseling and I still feel alone, it is eating me up inside. My husband is very loving. Thanks for the advice so far

Answer 1

Humm, maybe see a psychiatrist? It may be a depression you are going through and he/she could help.

Answer 2

Everyone is alone, really. Maybe part of the answer lies in helping others, focussing on the needs of others. For example, volunteer work does wonders. If you help someone out in dire straights, it helps you feel needed and more appreciative of your life and family. Some people don't have a family, and every day is a struggle. You sound a bit depressed, too, so it might help to get that addressed. Depression causes feelings of being all alone, amongst other things. It's important to take care of that for your kids, as you may well know already, kids pick up on that. Maybe you and your kids could volunteer together or you could join a group, like birding or bowling-- so you can have that extra time with others outside of family.

Answer 3

Are you a stay at home mom? You need to have friends, too. No matter how great your husband and kids are, you need to have someone who you can just talk to. Most moms get to feeling lonely. I used to get depressed all the time. Find someone you really have a lot in common with. Or try getting into a hobby that intrests you. If you have a lot of time on your hands (depending on the size of your family and the ages of your children), you could find something to do that gets you out of the house for a few hours (weekly at the least).
If all else fails, you can email me and we'll chat via emails.
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Answer 4

Hi. Have you taken any time to be YOURSELF? It is admirable that you love your family; do they respect you as a person? You deserve a bit of time to be the person that you were before you started your family. If your husband is open to it...schedule a date night. Rediscover why you got together in the first place. If not, find another married friend and go out for a while. Don't cruise---if you're really in Love.
It's that Love spark that brought you to him, and he to you that is lacking. If he takes you for granted, you have a lot of work ahead. If he shines your suggestions on (you do talk don't you?) make your decision before your life disappears.

Answer 5

Finding something all yours ! A peace of mind .I took up photography .And I just love all the pictures I have , my husband noticed I enjoyed it , and we started going places , he drove in Chico as I hang out the top out the widow , yelling wait , stop , We shared laughs about people yelling "what the ...in the middle of the street , you &^&%*^. But usaully I go alone and it gave me something to show him and the kids and family . I even learned how to do a lot with crambra , I even notice more life if that makes since . Until then I really wasn't sure why I felt so ??? Yea, know , for myself I needed something all mine once in awhile .

Answer 6

This may sound paradoxical but the more you give of yourself the more you are fulfilled and that void of loneliness dissipates. What sort of things do you enjoy? Maybe try teaching those things to others. Take an elderly neighbor fishing and listen to his stories, invite an elderly woman to help you bake a couple pies then send one home with her, arrange a block party to bring everyone together, offer to do things for others and you'll be surprised what that can add to your life.

Answer 7

Maybe you need to find through counseling (it's not a shrink but). It is very therapeutic and if all else fails..get some therapy...that can really help you...Loneliness can be sign of mild depression or simple anxiety, nothing that needs medication or anything, it can be just a product of a food allergy, poor diet, chemical imbalance, hormones, medication, talk to doctor and if tests show nothing and all, he may refer you for counseling and/or therapy.

Answer 8

Sounds like you may be battling some depression. Depression is hard to overcome, but you need to make yourself get out and do the things that you enjoy. Call up the gals and meet for lunch or drinks. See if they want to go on a movie. Go on a date with your husband. There are lots of things you can do.

Answer 9

well not so sure you will find the answer here to your question. that has to come within. have you thought about counseling to help you sort this out? if you have a active life and are happy in your marriage something is making you unhappy with your self or it may be a medical situation such as a type of depression. i would think about counseling its been helpful for allot of people. good luck to you.

Answer 10

You said that you are married to the love of your life, and have a wonderful family. There are so many causes why such is so and since there is not more details to give a good hypothesis there is not much i can write about.

Answer 11

I'd be happy to come over to keep you company. We could play cards or to to True Value. I Feel Yoouur Pain. Let's spend some money together! New patio furniture, or home decor. Then we'll snuggle by the pool. M-m-m-m, I can feel your rump against my front-side. Then into the master suit for a shower. Or a shower AFTER !!!. Baby, you got IT! LEMME SEE YOUR LOVE!