my husband works graves, I have a day job that I can't stand. I come home to a little baby who goes to bed about an hour after I get home and my husband is off to work. So I'm alone most of the time. On the weekends my husband sleeps both Saturday and Sunday my only free time. We only get a few hours together? I love my husband and baby but I'm so lonely. My husband can't change his shift and I am just dealing with it. any ideas?
2006-07-09 11:25:22 · 13 answers · asked by Daz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in a similar situation I developed a healthy addiction to yahoo Q&A hahahaha
find something that you enjoy doing. For you. and do make sure that you schedule some time for you and your husband. Make it a priority. Being lonely is one of the primary motivators for infidelity. Don't let it be the down fall of the realtionship you share with the man you Love.
2006-07-09 11:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Heathery Lane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously your marriage is very important so cheating is right out.
I have a feeling your hubby only sleeps about 4 hours Saturday and Sunday so he can spend some time with you. This shift is probably killing your hubby too. My suggestions:
1. Be understanding. Working shift work sucks but SOMEONE has to do it when working a job like telephony or power. If your power was out would you be cool waiting about 10 hours till someone came to fix it? Nope.
2. Make the best of the time you have together. I know tensions can put a stress on your relationship but you have to get past that.
3. Use your time with out your hubbin constuctively. Home projects, visiting with family and friends (unless they are guys), shopping for shoes, ya know, all the importants stuff.
** Very important...In todays society people have lost what it means to be commited in a marriage. You need to stay focused and NOT stray from the marriage
2006-07-14 00:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a position to do it, I would start some sort of home based business to replace your income. Daycare is a good place to start. You'll save the money you spend on daycare, gas, pantyhose (if you have that kind of job), and possibly your marriage. If you run a daycare in your home, you can deduct part of your rent or mortgage, utilities, etc. (as long as you're reporting the income).
I know this would be hard with your husband trying to sleep all day, but a small daycare group isn't necessarily noisy, and you can have quiet time and go outside for noisy time.
Another idea would be to find a daycare job where they let you take your baby with you at no charge.
Or you could find a job on graveyard shift, hire someone to sleep at your house with your baby, then plan to get most of your sleep while your baby naps during the day.
2006-07-09 18:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Karen M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all its to bad that your in this situation and hopefully you can try to make a job change but for changing shifts its not that easy if you go on the same shift as he then that requires daycare which is expensive but also hard to get for the grave yard shift. there are no good answers i have but only advice you need to talk to your husband about this and have him help you figure this out or your marriage could have some repercussions from this not to mention your mental health. hopefully you can find a hobby,have friends over at night sometimes. you need something in your life before you feel you dont have one. good luck to you.
2006-07-09 18:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband cannot change his shift, then I would suggest you look into changing yours. You still won't have the best schedule..especially where the baby is concerned, but maybe it will take the stress off things a bit so you two can have a better relationship.. I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-07-09 18:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to compromise a little, I know the weekends are great for catching up on sleep, but maybe one of the days you guys could go on a "date", or even do something as a family. It's all about a little compromise.
2006-07-09 18:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try working from home. E bay is a great way to make money. lots of people do it. or consider working part time. your husband sleeps all weekend? does he work weekends?what kind of work does he do more information needed please...
2006-07-09 18:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever it takes !
Kill him with sweetness, stay in bed with him...
BABY TALK, then, PILLOW TALK...Be his friend
Keep a flirty little smile on your face at all times
You'll look more 'interesting' to him
Don't wait til Baby is out-of-the-house ;)
2006-07-09 18:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Merry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEET HIM AT WORK A FEW NIGHTS A WEEK FOR DINNER BREAK AND YOU BOTH SPEND THAT TIME TOGETHER.... TALKING OR EXTRA CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES LIKE I DON;T KNOW SEX..... JUST HAVE A RELATIVE COME OVER ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK TO STAY WHILE YOU ARE GONE... GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS...
2006-07-09 18:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by rawdawgsgo_hard2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it a point to give him a quickie everytime he leaves for work and everytime he arrives home from work.
2006-07-09 18:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋