please help me, i am a female in a lesbian relationship in which my partner thinks about sex 24hrs. a day 7 days a week . what do you do when you are not as sexual as she is , when she says what you don't do another girl will
2006-07-09 10:57:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh well the fact that she said if you dont another grl will...is total bullsh@t...that pisses me off...im very sexual but id never say that to a girl im with..buy toys..experiment have fun...make things different ..but if she said that to you then id let her go shes telling you she wont have a problem cheating on you...to bad you cant be with a real woman whod treat you right! hit me up if you wanna chat!
2006-07-09 11:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by stormyheart 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you are being manipulated. The two of you need some understandings about boundaries. First off, is this an exclusive relationships? Then she has no business threatening to take her lust elsewhere. Be open to the idea that maybe you withhold some stuff from her as well, and if you can't talk it out, find a gay/lesbian friendly counselor-therapist to help facilitate the discussion. You're an adult women (I presume you're adult) and should not be manipulated, but you may need to negotiate the terms of your relationship. It can't be all her way, but it can't be all your way either!
2006-07-09 11:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get busy! It would be worse if she was the opposite way. My boyfriend and I had the exact same problem at the beginning of our relationship (I have a much higher sex drive than him) and we sorted it out by being honest with each other. To say "What you don't do another girl will" is emotional blackmail though, so you may have to question whether she is worth staying with in the first place. Good luck!!
2006-07-09 11:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
till both companions might want to care a lot less about sex.. sex concerns in any courting gay/lesbian or maybe immediately. that is not a need, even if that's area of maximum healthful relationships. till you're asexual, or have a medical situation that makes sex un-relaxing, why would you ever want to "tolerate" a sex free existence form?
2016-10-14 07:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by holcy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a same sex relationship and my gf is a sex maniac as well she wants it 24-7 and some times im not in the mood but it doesn't take me long to get into the mood when shes all ova me. mine usually jus gets me in the mood by talking dirty or jus being naughty. and i actually think its cute n i like how horny she is cuz i know she wants it from me which makes it even hotter.
but if she cheats on u then u deserve better
2006-07-09 11:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dump her,christ there's more to a relationship than sex,dont get me wrong,i love sex as often as i can get in ,but if thats her sad way of manipulating you into it,tell her to f* ck off,i bet she's not very good at conversation /expressing her feeling's with you either?
2006-07-09 23:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by raven jack. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should respect your feelings. It sounds like she's trying to make you jealous, which would send up red flags if it were me. But if you want practical advice, see if you can get her to concentrate more on quality instead of quantity.
2006-07-09 11:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by pibb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes pressuring you into being sexual, and believe me, that dosnt help. come up with a number, like 2 times a week, then if se doesnt like it, tell her to fucq her srlf, or a rabbit, or a screw driver.
2006-07-11 09:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her my way!
No seriously, it sounds as though she doesn't have respect for your feelings.. and as long as you allow her to treat you that way, she will.. why should she change when you're giving into her... you need to tell her how you feel and if she can't accept that, then you're better off without her...
2006-07-09 11:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Paige 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a very highly sexually person. my gf doesn't have a sexual "appetite" like i do. i wouldn't think of cheating on her. i use sex toys. try talking to your friend to see what compromises you can come up with. you also try just pleasing her, without you being pleased. it might work, just give it a try.
2006-07-09 13:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by bloodletvamp 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋