Ok see I havethis guy that I love with ALL my heart! But my friends dont really like him! Some of them are tellin me that if I go back wit him (we already r) then they werent gonna be my friend no more! But this guy means so much to me! But nobody can take into consideration of wut I want! Like my mom she HATES him n I am no longer allowed 2 see him! But he is my life right now! I dont kno wut I would do without him! But there is the fact that he also has a kid and he ahs cheated on his other gilfriends bt he has never cheated on me! And then he is older than me by 4 years (I am 14) n idk wut to do! I love him so much but other ppl wont accept that AT ALL!!! Tell me what I should do....choose my friends or the man of my dreams?!?!?! He also wants me to go kinda punkish but I am kinda gangsta preppy! One of my friends told me that if he is the guy I love the most then his oppinion counts he most, right? He wants a baby too! So do I but can he handle errythign that comes with it? HELP ME
2006-07-09 10:40:07 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
u sound like you about26 or some thin u are to young to have a baby by this boy u still a kid your damn self why u want to rush and grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and it's a reason why your moma don't want u 2 c him and your friends don't approve of him it's somethin they c in him that u don't c. and u need to be worring about your grammar and spelling than about some boy and havin his baby cause you had a lot of mistakes in the questions u asked i'm just keepin it real!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i'm 14
2006-07-09 10:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by britney d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just doing what she thinks is in your best interest. If, it came down to it would you be willing to choose this guy over your family? How do you know that he hasn't cheated on you? Are you wanting this guy to go to jail or something? He is 18 and you are 14--by some laws that is called Statory Rape. By law he is an adult and you are a child (or teenager) and he can get in trouble by the law for messing around with you. You are only 14, you don't need a baby to raise right now--you have the rest of your life to live. They say a child shouldn't have to raise a baby.
2006-07-09 17:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by jareds_gurl862002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl that's not love that's infatuation. And your friends and your mom loves you and they only want to do what's best for you if they know that the guy is no good then of course they'd tell you to leave him alone. Besides if he cheated on other girls what make's you think that he won't cheat on you? You're young sweety guys like takeing advantage of younger girls because in their mind you're gullable and easy. And you are not ready for a baby I'm telling you that now. He may be the type to tell you all the things you wanna hear right now but, when the baby comes he's gone. Your friends are not true if they're going to stop being your friend if you don't stop talking to him but, they are true for the advice listen to your mama sweety she knows. And no matter how bad it hurts you gotta let go. Learn to love yourself before you can love someone else. That's all I can say sorry about what's going on.
2006-07-09 17:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Neshandria W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, my little sister's best friend was going through the same thing last year. Her boyfriend broke up with her b/c his ex was pregnant and then he decided he didn't want to be w/ the ex and got back w/ my sister's friend. There was issues of him cheating and she gave him her virginity. We all told her to dump him that he wasn't worth it. They told her they would stop talking to her if she stayed with him and I told her that she was stupid to stay with anyone who cheated on her.
But anyway...she's pregnant and was planning to graduate a year early next year but won't be able to if she misses too much school when she gives birth. The babies' father is a loser and her baby isn't going to have a great life he/she would have had if her mother had waited until after the whole college/career thing.
There is no reason for the guy who loves you (didn't mention that did you?) to want you to mess up your life or ruin your potential child's life. If it's true love, give him up. If it's a school girl's lust, give him up. If you are meant to be with him, it is meant to be after you graduate (with top grades, gangsta prep).
The average life expectancy for a female is something like 73 and the male's is 68-ish, so if you have all those years to spend getting married and having and raising children, why get started now? Think about it: you get your license in a year or so and you will want to do things with your life other than drive to walmart b/c you need diapers and formula, right. And you have so much more to look forward to, why not save the baby thing for later?
2006-07-09 18:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by jantwo11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should step back---write down the good stuff on a piece of paper. Then, write down the stuff that your friends and family find incorrect about this relationship on another sheet of paper.
Compare the 2 after a day or so and see if any answers might need to be switched from 1 sheet to the other. Your family is always gonna be your family. Your friends may see stuff that you don't see. Don't shut out opinions of your best friends. Make a decision after much consideration. Good luck, girl.
2006-07-09 17:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not ready for a baby! Physically or emotionally. I'm 22 and there are times I don't think I was ready. That and you're asking about what clique (gangsta or punk) you should act like. That's just a sign of immaturity. As for the guy... it's CHICKS before D*CKS.
Unbelievable.
By the way... once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-07-09 17:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by boardwalkangel24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. Your friends say this guy is no good. Your parents say this guy is off limits but you (in your GREAT wisdom) know better than they do at age 14? uh, huh. right!!
Girl, you are already with trouble and you want more. You can't look at his life and figure out he's already screwed his up and now he is going to help you screw yours up.
Get the h*** out of there while you still can. If you don't you will end up barefoot and pregnant and he will be no where to be found. Look at the answers you're getting and GET A CLUE!!!
Dump this turkey now while you can.
2006-07-09 17:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14 years old having a baby will not only make you an outcast in school but think of what you family would do. You are not an adult yet enjoy being a youth and hang out with your friends and if you must be with your boyfriend stay out of any sex stuff because you will always regret it.
2006-07-09 23:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by Fourtonfour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenage girls need to realize that at your age NO relationship lasts forever...My daughter is 15...ran away with a 28 yr old man the said he would be with her forever....well..after he convonced her to do something she should NOT have and is in trouble with the police he is GONE....and her life will never be what it could have been....FORGET THE MAN and be a teenager for God's sake...get an education....Give youself a headstart on a good life....or you'll be in yer 30's 4 kids...workin at McDonald's
2006-07-09 17:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14! You should be hanging out with your friends and having fun, not alienating your friends and family for a guy that won't even remember your name in 6 months. You have a lot of growing up and maturing to do if you think that he actually loves you.
2006-07-09 17:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. If you think that he won't cheat on you then you're delusional. Once a cheater always a cheater. Your mom and friends are right to not like him. You are way to young for a child right now. Sounds to me like he "wants" a child but he's not going to stick around when it comes time to care for it, just like with his other kid. Open your eyes and see that he's not right for you and he will only ruin your life if you stay with him.
2006-07-09 18:52:52 · answer #11 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋