I asked a couple questions about domestic violence?

Question

In one question I pretended to be a guy, in the other a girl. I gave both sides of the story, and was biased about each one to the respective side. I just wanted honest answers. I feel that I got them but some women were very angry once they thought they had been tricked. I am doing a study on DV. But what I found is that the women that seem to be most against men would push the law and all of the power that it gives them to the fullest. So if a man pushes or shoves you, but does not bruise you. Then why is it right and just for you to use the power the law gives you for you to be the bully. The days of women being weak are over, it is possible that you have much more power than a man, but I found from my study that about 35 percent of women are sane and fair. The rest kinda just want to bash men, especially if they were previously abused.

Answer 1

What is the question here exactly? Oh, you just wanted to bash women.
The facts are these: women may be strong in terms of earning power, they may be a strong as men mentally, but men are still physically larger than women, and are capable of hurting women pretty severely. Men who abusive of women sometimes end up killing them.
Calling the police when someone assaults you, even if they don't bruise you, isn't a way to bully men, it's a way to forcibly remove the man from you and you from the man, so that no one gets hurt again in the future, namely so that the woman doesn't get beaten even worse next time. If trying to not get beaten up or eventually killed is "bullying" a man, than what is the man doing when he physically pushes the woman? A favor?
People who have experienced domestic violence encourage people to call the police not because they're vindictive, but because they know how bad it can get when you let that first or second shove go. Excuse them for trying to save women from the terrible fates they themselves experienced.
I'd be interested in seeing this "study" you are conducting...I'm sure you'll be laughed out of academia for suggesting that only 35% of women are "sane and fair", and rightly so.

Answer 2

Well, quite a biased study to be honest.
Violence is never justifiable, nor from men, nor from women.
The domestic violence is composed from emotional violence and physical violence. Keeping a woman terrified because of her lack of education, resources or the fear of starting their life from zero with several kids while they learned to be dependent through years of brainwash and emotional abuse is another issue. No physical strengh is necessary, just cruelty, and why not, a sadistic pleasure of controlling somebody and keep on being to the world the good guy, while the frustrated woman looks always frustrated and as a consequence sometimes even aggressive.
Women are physically weaker unless they are fully trained atlets. That is not dependent on the height, but on the natural complexion that gives to men hormones that help them to be naturally more muscular, and also aggressive , and to women, who are naturally less muscular and have higher percentages from fat than men from same age/height ....just fine to bare a pregnancy.
I doubt than a truly abused women wants to get revenge against men through violence. I rather think that they would do everything on their hands to prevent to have the same experience once more since getting out of an abusive relation is extremely difficult.

Answer 3

Listen I am woman of domestic Violence and I am not mad at you for doing what you did. I lived with a man that not only shoved me but hit me in places that was not visible. It took 3 years before he got comfortable with hitting me and leaving marks. Now most people would call me an idiot and I agree. I lost myself for a long time and I felt that I was unworthy of anything else. It took him throwing me down a flight of stairs and killing our unborn child to finally leave. But before that I had so many broken bones that the police arrested him on bodily proof. When he was finally arrested for attempted murder I didn't go all psycho I went to seek help. It doesn't mean that I didn't hate him or want him to pay for what he did to me. I got in a program and I am now a counselor in a women's shelter. If you have never been a victim of domestic violence you will never know. Instead of asking on-line why don't you go to a women shelter in your area ask the director if you can sit in a group and listen. Then go to a men's group (usually anger management) and ask the director or facilitator to sit in. Go to the source. Good Luck.

Answer 4

You didn't ask a question, so I'll give you an opinion, OK?

The US is a patriarchal culture which means that women and girls receive constant messages that they are somewhat 'second-class'. Many women, after being sensitized to this attitude, tend to see it everywhere, even where it doesn't exist. So, when a man crosses the line and gets abusive, many women want to see him punished for all the slights and indignities they've ever received.

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