i was jus sitting and thinkin how my hubby wud react if my daugther wanted to marry someone who is not the same religion or colour..or background..
2006-07-09 10:30:20 · 17 answers · asked by whistleblower 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe there is one God but many roads to him, each of the roads being a different denomination. So I would ask does it matter which road is taken as non of us will really know if we took the right one until we die. The important thing is that we believe in God and are trying to conduct our lives in a decent way as we think he would want us to no matter what he is called. My concerns with a daughter marrying someone of a different race would not be religion but adjustment to cultural difference's.
2006-07-09 11:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by tonyweston 2 · 15⤊ 1⤋
It should be your child's choice (hopefully they properly understand the weight of their choice and the religion itself).
As far as being with someone from another religion or color, that depends on the personalities and feelings of the two people getting married and has nothing to do with anyone else. Some people can be of two totally different religions and respect each other. I know plenty of people who have been raised in two different types of religious settings and it's worked for them!
2006-07-09 10:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by enseen61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I support individuality, I believe it is the key to becoming a well grounded adult. For this reason aside from anything I would need to listen and hear my child, I would hope that I would have the hope in my child to encourage them to go forward, follow their dreams and beliefs, listening to their own hearts. After all they already know the right thing to do and I hope I would always, always keep dialogue going, never, ever closing doors of communication for it is then that the key is lost.
2006-07-09 10:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by silentium aqualis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm I agree that its the kids choice.
However does seem all one sided, parent brings it up, parent pays for everything in first 10 or 20 years of kids life, then the kid suddenly states that the parent has no right to play a part in their lives. Lovely. :) Okay, the parents do have the right but only as far as a lift to their son's mate goes.
2006-07-09 10:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by englishkeymaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not religious, so this is difficult for me to answer, but I have had to think about what I will do if my child comes home one day and wants to go to church with her friends.
I've thought long and hard about this, and I've decided that the best I can do is arm her with information so she make choices that are best for her. I plan to teach her about all religions, and then allow her to choose the one that is right for her.
2006-07-09 10:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 5 children and for me the choice in partner and religion should be theres and no one elses.
my eldest daughter has just married a man i went to school with.....2 of my other children were against the relationship,until i pointed out that he makes her happy and it is her that has to live with him and not us....
as for religion,i've always tried to be open minded about it....i am not religious myself,but i dont have a problem with anyone that is.
2006-07-09 10:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, all you can do is be supportive. I know it may seem devastating..I myself would be really disappointed if any of my sons wanted to marry outside our race, I'll admit that. But I wouldn't cut ties with them or something..if that's who they love, then I'll accept it..its all you can do if you want to keep your children in your lives when they become adults.
2006-07-09 10:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you don't want your kids to have free will?
Are you ready for them to walk out on you?
You should hope that they will be happy and help them along. It is their life and you have no right to dictate to them. Want to cuddle grandchildren? Most people do. Dont loose all that happiness, be understanding and look to ensure your kids have happines and with luck they will share it with you.
2006-07-09 10:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i wouldn't care, but i wouldn't bring up my kid with any religion, i want them to have an open view of the world and decide what they like and don't like themself and not impose my own views on them (how ever ironic it sounds!!!)
2006-07-09 10:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by quamig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not react , each person has a right to choose and make his /her decision , so dont go indoctrinating the kid. allow them their freedom , it will be better for you in the long run
2006-07-09 10:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by jammyngz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋