My parents are having a huge fight! My mom left this morning! Now I'm stuck here with my dad and little brother and i really don't want to be I want to be with my mom. I want my mom to be happy and when she is away from my dad she is so that's not the problem. My dad won't let me go and live with her because he thinks we give her a reason to come back. I don't want to live with my dad but I don't won't my mom to have to be unhappy all the time ethier! How do I convince my dad into letting my little brother and I leave? I want my mom to be happy but I don't want to live here am I being selfish? I mean my mom and I have always been close I can ask her anything and she will help me out with whatever and all so if I can't go live with my mom what do I do? I really need some good answers I am really having a hard time with this!!
2006-07-09 09:55:48 · 10 answers · asked by zandrabob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mom wants my brother and i to live with her but my dad don't because this gives her a reason to come home. They haven't gotten a divorce yet they have just split but my mom is ready to divorce. So I can't go to court and pick who I live with. I REALLY NEED HELP!!!! PLEASE!!!
2006-07-09 10:05:23 · update #1
I going to be honest this is a hard question to answer. It is too bad you and your brother have to be in the middle of this hole thing. I know I am a mother my self. I am sure your mother will try every thing she has to get yous out of there. It may take a little time but she will be there for yous. Just try not to get in your fathers way. I am sure he loves yous both too. Just hold in there I am sure you will see your mom soon. Good luck
2006-07-09 10:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that your family is having problems, If you ask a question like this next time put your age, because alot of options depend on your age. I suggest you find out if lawyers are involved or not. You are allowed to petition the court for a child advocate to protect your interests over your fathers or mothers, or you could even phone legal aid, tell them your problem and a lawyer may be appointed to protect your interests. You could also contact social services , and they can appoint a lawyer for you. Good luck do whats best for you.
2006-07-09 10:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brad I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I’m sorry to hear about this. Take a piece of paper and write the following message to both of your parents. Tell them that:
''as children we need our parents to be together not separate. We need for a Father and a Mother to look after us. A family needs more and more from parents, we needs you both with us & together, and we don’t want to lose any of you''
Add to that the good thing you remember with your parents, a holiday, a party, a trip, any thing could remind them with the good time that your family has in the past. Tell them how proud you will be when you have both a Father and Mother living together as a family. Remind them that they are not alone, any thing they will do it will effects one you and your brother.
I am sorry again to hear all about this, I wish this will help you.
Good Luck
2006-07-09 10:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by saif_jp75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's going to be hard because it sounds like your dad is using you kids as a weapon and pawn with your mom. You may be able to go to your grandparents on your dad side and ask them to explain to him how much this mean to your happiness. maybe some kind of visitation can be worked out like alternate weeks. I don't know but something can be worked out if your Dad stop using you and your brother as punishment to your mom.
2006-07-09 10:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by midnight red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there! Why don't you talk to your mom about living with her. Find out if it's a option, or if there's some reason you're living with your dad. You and your brother just stick together. I guess it gives you time to build a relationship with your father since you're living with him. I know it's been hard to relate to my own father since my mom is so much easier to talk to.
2006-07-09 10:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can move with ur mom any time u want to u got that choose tell ur dad to suck a d i c k
2006-07-09 09:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by joejoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear this, ummmm...maby u should call another family member to come and get u, and if ur dad thinks that she will come back, she may and then again she may not but like i said earlier maby u should call anothe family member to come and get u guys
2006-07-09 10:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by whitney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur dad that ur un happy there with him and u dont wanna be there and tell ur mom sence ur mom dose anything 4 u then she wont mind commin to get u from there ....... good luck
2006-07-09 10:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by missblackmami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your over the age of 12 you can tell the judge where you want to live
2006-07-09 09:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by just2wild4ya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.You are not wrong here.Talk to your dad.Tell him what you feel about this entire argument thing.He will understand.
Good luck.
2006-07-09 09:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋