Exhusband not abiding by the court order....?

Question

My ex husband and I have been divorced for 6 yrs now and since the separation he has not taken any interest in our son and nor does he want to pay the child support he has been ordered in the divorced decree. Should I ask him to just plainly sign off on my son or make him pay the child support and/or go to jail for non payment and just take him for everything he is obligated to pay for our son? I say sign off and be done with him. He isnt seeing him on his visitations times or pays child support so why not. His now fiance' has 2 children that they get every other weekend and do things with them but not with our son. Just last week they went camping which my son loves to do and didnt even bother to call and see if he wanted to go. He is a worthless bastard in my book that made a baby and doesnt want anything to do with him. By the way son is 11 yrs old now divorced at age 5

Answer 1

If you would like to pursue enforcing the court order, you should go to http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/. This is the national deadbeat dad website. There is a lot of useful information regarding your situation, including a Q & A section and links to State Deadbeat Dad sites. It also provides any forms that you will need to get your state's Child Support Enforcement agency involved. In my opinion, you should definately pursue obtaining child support. They can garnish his wages and send the money directly to you, they can also revoke his license until he pays or (as you said) send him to jail. Whether he wants to have a role in his son's life aside, he is required to provide support for him. Now, obviously, if he's sitting in jail, he can't work...and therefore, won't have wages to garnish. However most people, regardless of how bad they don't want to pay child support, will not go to the extent of being locked up and/or losing their job to avoid it. I wish you luck in however you decide to handle this situation.

Answer 2

Take him to court for the back child support! This does not mean that he still can't sign off on his rights. If he signed off his rights to your son, he would not have to pay child support in the future, but he would still be responsible for payments he missed in the past.

If you feel that you do not need the money, put it in an account or something for your son when he goes to school. Also, you can set up where his payments are paid through the court. So if he misses 3 payments in a row they automatically go pick him up and put him in jail till he comes up with it.

Also, I have a friend who had trouble with non payment, and the court actually takes the money out of his check before he even gets it.

Answer 3

Even if you have him sign off, in most states the courts order them to pay child support, until the other parent remarries and the step-parent want to legally adopt the child. So my advice to you is take him to court and fight for the money. Depending on your state, he will have to pay the state and not you. The state will send you a check at the same time every month. But if he doesn't pay the state on time, they pick him up and throw his a**in jail. It's a better deal for you to go through the state and not deal with the creep.

Answer 4

make him pay the child support an any back child support money due you hire a lawyer an go after him make them garnish his wages from his paycheck an tax returns ,,, an as far as visitation is if he does not see him ask him why i mean point blank ask him why who knows maybe his new fiances does not like your child an dont want him around a lot of wemon an men are like that but all the same go after him in court an get what you an your child got coming but by all means never ever talk bad about the childs father in front of the child that the only father he has

Answer 5

Sweetie your Ex-husband is a sorry piece of trash...Sorry to say but true...You know best how your son feels and do this for him...If he really don't care to spend time with his dad then you should sign him off and be done with him...I may be a little old fashioned by i feel a man should have to support his children...What ever you feel is best for you and your son is what you need to do...It would not be very hard to make him pay up or go to jail....Get something out of him at the least..
Good luck to you what ever you do will be best for your son and yourself
Smile and be happy!!!!

Answer 6

If you contact the FOC, they can put in an order to withhold his Income Tax return (if he gets money back). That money would be sent to you as child support. I say let the man keep being charged child support. They also have what is called Income Withholding Orders, ask that the court serve one on his employer. That way the send the money before he ever sees it! I don't know what state you are in, but in my state, in order to have the father sighn off...YOU must be married to someone for at least 1 year and the new husband would have to adopt.

Answer 7

Dont let your X lack of responsibility detract from you and your child, that's vwhy you divorced him in the first place. Try to keep a civil tone and tongue in your voice when your son is present regarding his father. Remember that your son is 50% of both of you and when you talk badly about his father it is the equivilent of bashing him. The court is there for a reason and if you are unhappy with his failure to comply with the courts order, compell him through the court. DON'T start the he does so much for more for his girlfriends kids than mine and his, NEGATIVE feelings of be rejected and dejected to your son manefest and grow, focus on the good for his sake. My experience is that eventually the absent parent comes to their senses and picks up the slack. Try, and I don't underestimate the difficulty in the feeling, to forgive your x-husband and close the door on that part of your life, your son will be better off when you can talk with his father without all of the anger and pain. I know it's tough, but you will be so greatful if you take these steps, so will your children. God bless..

Answer 8

I agree with you, he is worthless. The decision is yours, to either force him legally to pay child support, or to cut all ties with him. Personally, I feel he should pay child support, and you should take him to court for it. That'll get him where it hurts. But if you can't afford an attorney, then cut all ties with that SOB. Let your son make his own observations about his dad, don't say anything. In the long run, he'll be sorry for not being a better father. Best of luck to you..............

Answer 9

"Should I ask him to just plainly sign off on my son or make him pay the child support and/or go to jail for non payment and just take him for everything he is obligated to pay for our son?"

Well, it seems you aren't too bright yourself Mrs. WENCH! Friggin insult my intelligence because i like a BAND? Look at your grammar, that damn sentence doesn't make the slightest bit of sense, honey.

Oh, to bring you out of the dark for a second, I'm that guy that you told to do "hooked on 'PHONIS'" maybe you should learn how to spell. Here, i'll get you started: B-I-T-C-H

Paybacks a *****, aint it?

Oh, and some advice for you, quit being such a ***** to your ex and maybe he wouldn't be so scared to come around your god forsaken home.

I wish the best of luck for YOUR SON. But I could care less about you. Thanks for insulting my intelligence, i'm just returning the favor. ;)

And, you also "talk stupid"

Answer 10

He is in contempt of court and the court can impose sanctions on him, among them, going to jail, paying fines and/or community service. As and for child support, get an attorney to put a Wage Withholding Order on him, the Department of Justice in your area will do this for free. COntact an attorney or the court system in your area for assistance.