We hardly ever see eachother and our lives are going in totaly different directions, not to mention that we don't get along as well as we used to, and really, we don't have anything in common, but I don't want to hurt her feelings, we've been really good friends for ten years, and I don't think she'd take it that well. Help!
2006-07-09 09:31:12 · 5 answers · asked by Jen H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't have to say anything unless you're trying to preserve the relationship. You'll just drift apart and have your own lives. Why create any drama? You may decide in another decade that you have more in common than you thought.
2006-07-09 09:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Melius 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, me and my old bf were best friends for 12 years. We been through alot and had alot of good and bad times but started to grow apart also. We both have children and take care of them very differently. I tried to help her by telling her my feelings about how she dosent take such good care of her kids at times...although my feelings came out in an argument, it was still the truth and the main thing that really broke our bond. We talked about it but I could just feel that things would never work out between us because we were too different. So I told her. If you feel this way towards your friend, then chances are that she feels the same way or atleast notices it. Just tell her the truth. People grow apart, losing people that are close to you, whether it be by death, or your differences is part of growing up. All you will do is learn from this. Everything we go through builds our character! Whats meant to happen will happen.
good luck and best wishes :)
2006-07-09 09:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.
well I personally have had the same bestfriend for the past 14 years. We met in 9th grade, and even tho I've moved to Tennessee and she's in ohio, we still talk and still text message eachother, email and visit one another.
if you feel that you don't have anything in common with her, write her an email and tell her how you feel. It may be mutual.
2006-07-09 09:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by MissT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with rachel_waves. you can let it take its course....It's normal for friends to grow apart...if she calls you can say sorry I'm busy in a nice way ect until your friend gets the hint that you don't want to hang out anymore.....if you feel you really need to have a confrontation to end it then do it in a graceful way, explain why you don't want to be friends anymore and then move on, don't talk bad about your friend after you end it, just be nice and graceful...if you can get to a library check out I forget the name but it's a book by Jan Yager.....you can also check out her website www.janyager.com, good luck!
2006-07-09 09:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by jd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't say anything and let the relationship naturally drift apart. There doesn't have to be an end day. Just let it run its course. No drama.
2006-07-09 09:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋