4 years ago I had to choose between two guys. I chose the one I'm with now and have been with for the past four years. I know that everyone has their faults, but for about the past six months, I've been feeling like I may have made the wrong choice. I want someone that I can settle down with and have a family with. The guy I'm with is 25 has a great job but he still lives at home because he's afraid of being out from beneath his mother's wings. He's the biggest pothead I've met, spends around $500 a month on weed. He has no intentions of going to college and is content with working hard for less money all his life. But he's always been there for me and he's always given me what I needed. The guy I left behind is 31, doesn't have a great job because he's focusing on his masters degree. He can't give me anything I need right now but he's got his head on straight and doesn't do drugs. If I'm with him the next 4 years will be rough while he's in college for his masters. What should I do?
2006-07-09 09:26:27 · 4 answers · asked by Jenn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its up to u, but since ur desperate, i would try telling the guy ur with y u think this isn't workin out, or at least tell him he should stop doin watever he's doin that u don't like. if he doesn't, tell him that this isn't goin to work out because obviously, he's not willin to give up somethin in his life for you. especially the rest of his life. then hook up with the other guy. if he still likes u. does he??
2006-07-09 09:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by MyMuNcHkiNzPLz 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young and (no offense) inexperienced to know at this point in your life! Get out and meet LOTS of people. Make friends. Get some variety! It is only by meeting many people (yes, and even making some mistakes!) that you will learn what works for you and what doesn't...
The ones that aren't worth it, you will usually recognize right away. Move on...
The only risk is perhaps not recognizing the RIGHT one soon enough... But don't worry...
In the long run, things have a way of turning out for the best!
2006-07-10 16:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by N2FC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first I would tell the guy your with right now to quit smoking pot and quit spending a lot of money on that and than suggest to him to go to college or find a good job that can pay some money and if he doesnt than tell him its not working out than leave him than go find someone else also if I were you but I am not so I cant tell you that but I would suggest it to not be in a hurry slow down some and try to meet and get to know people first if it works out for you than you can settle down with them make sure it works first cause you dont want to just settle down with anyone cause if it doesnt work than its a waiste of time anyway to even settle down anyway but the best thing right now for you to do is first and most is to go searching for someone else who reaches what your looking for or basically your needs and than when you find that someone spend a good amount of time getting to know them and make sure it works before you go settle down cause if it doesnt work you waisted your time I hope this helps you out
2006-07-09 16:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by jon200547 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking. Your young. Why the heck you want to settle down if you haven't found someone you aren't completly satisfied with.
2006-07-09 16:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋