The reason for divorce was alcoholism. He did put himself into rehab and it has been a year since he got out. He has fallen off the wagon only a couple of times. I love him and I am wanting to believe this will be the right thing to do.
2006-07-09 09:18:47 · 17 answers · asked by Stephanie J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been living together for a year now with only 2 relapses of his alcoholism.
2006-07-09 09:26:52 · update #1
you were in this situation before and now you are willing to re-enter. With no disrespect, stop and think for a minute... Yes, I believe everyone deserves a second chance especially if kids are involved. However, you've mentioned that the divorced was due to alcoholism, he went to rehab and he relapsed only twice thereafter. I don't want to be judgemental, neither I'm I walking in your shoe. But the ball is in your court. My advice to you is try and book an appointment to see a therapist, (pastors, psychologist) so both of you could get some kind of treatment before making the move. Also, both of you should pray about it because you wouldn't want to divorce twice either. Remember, prayer is the key to all unlock doors.
2006-07-09 09:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Reidi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. I wanted to believe that he had recovered, but he really had not. I would look for signs that he is in full recovery. Since you say that he has fallen off the wagon a couple of times, he may need more time to adjust to his new life before he takes on marriage again. If you truly love him then right now your support is all he needs until he can build a new life for himself first. You also have to love yourself enough to not put yourself into a situation that may not be stable right now.
2006-07-09 09:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he has been sober for a full year without a single falling off the wagon before you think about remarrying him. He is not recovered yet and he needs an incentive to stay sober for a full year. If you remarry right now he will go back to drinking. Go to al-anon for advice.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html They are the experts and they can help you. They have been where you are.
2006-07-09 09:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then remarrying the same person can be wonderful. You know of his alcoholism, and he's been working to get straight. When you marry, as you are well aware, it is "in sicknes and in health". If he loves you, and you love him, then re-marry him. You know what you are getting into, and you are obviously prepared for what happens when you are married to an alcoholic. Just be there for him, and if he is ready, he will re-enter rehab and fight to get sober. I wish you all of the luck in the world. Unfortunately, life isn't perfect, people aren't perfect (Lord knows I'm not), but you only get one shot in life, and if is your man, do as the song says and "Stand By Your Man". Once again, good luck; and, I hope you are not hurt.
2006-07-09 09:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that if he can stay on the wagon for one year and even if he does fall off you can be there to help him when he needs it. Getting remarried do it, if it feels right to you.
2006-07-09 09:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by peaches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell the truth i don't see why you got a divorse in the first place when your married you stay there through the thick and the thin (unless he hit you for no reason or somthing small and if he did hit you don't get back together cause if a man hits you once there's a changes he'll hit you again) but if you love him and he's working on his drinking than go for it
2006-07-09 09:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by mocha-fava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every person that is going through something needs love but what i would do is help him through it don't put him situations were he would have to drink so if you want to marry him then just take things slow and let him stray away from the alcoholism
2006-07-09 09:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by sassyladytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 22:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by cornn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pointless, you obviously got divorced for a reason so why do the same mistake again?
2006-07-09 09:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by sam_keane_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm not sure I would. Maybe try living together again for a period of time. People change!!
2006-07-09 09:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋