2006-07-09 09:16:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you know why it is that they hate you, then try to get that specific issue resolved. If you have no clue as to why they hate you, it may just be that no one will ever be good enough for their son and at that point, there's only so much you can do.
If you find yourself fighting with them, remove yourself from the situation and if needs be, from any family functions. Your husband is going to have to understand that for the sake of your marriage, you cannot keep battling his parents as it can come between the two of you. It's not an easy thing to avoid family functions, but neither is it easy to be battling the in-laws constantly. Perhaps he would be willing to talk to them about this also?
Good luck!
2006-07-09 09:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband needs to work this our for YOUR sake. I had a very rocky start to my relationship mother in law who did her level best to break us apart. In the end, my wife had to lay down the law and tell her that we are getting married and that's that. I ate some crow and made nice with her, and she did the same (reluctantly). After nearly fifteen years of marriage, all of the bad stuff is forgotten, and we have a terrific relationship. Your husband has to stand up for you. It's either you, or them, for him. He has to make a choice and stand up for his wife. Be polite, cordial, and be the mature one when the in laws are out of control. But remind your husband that there is only so much you can take of their nonsense. Good luck.
2006-07-09 09:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to tell you a story we people from India enjoy telling through generations about in-law matters:
it's the story of a woman with her daughter-in-law: the mother hated her daughter in law and used to mess up her life. Daughter went to check out with some witches how to get rid of her. Witch gave the daughter an oil to be massaged on Mother in law's hair.
Daughter despaired, but had to do it, and act smart with her to get rid of her. She began to play being in very nice, and slowly, mother in law began to love daughter.
At last, mother in law confided all the house's keys and all family wealth to her. Now, daughter-in-law sad, and despared because started to love her mother-in-law becaus of the relationship created.
Daughter went again to witch to look for a craft to cancel the curse.
Witch said sorry, I cant
Daughter again deeply despaired
Witch finally admitted that the oil had no power, he just gave it to change situation between them.
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This is the story. Anyway, I know how duff such situations are. But remember 2 - 3 things:
1. You can't force them to love you, but you can love them though.
2. Dont you ever put your husband in a bad situation/position. If you can sacrifice do it !! Why not ?? We are making sacrifices when it's about others. Doesn't our family deserve peace of mind?
3. Never try to say they are bad. Pretty oppsite, tell yourself they are good and move ahead, don't bother. If your heart is pure and generous, this shouldn't be a problem. I've gone through that too.
Good luck
2006-07-09 09:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lynnx-eyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant make no one like you you can do back flips jump over rocks and mountains if they dont like you they just dont like you dont kiss a** or beg tell your hubby when and if they want to get to know you and like you for who you are your willing to talk to them until then its nothing more you can do
2006-07-09 10:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.geocities.com/daughtersinlaw
hopefully this site will help. Good luck.
2006-07-09 09:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there might not be anything you can do about it, good luck.
2006-07-09 09:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by usmchawkeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋