Ok, here we go again, I'm a single dad ,with a 15 year old girl in a college program.I work seven days a week,(self- employed).anyway,i don't have much time for myself.she wanted me to make her cookies ,so i did (choco chip),do you guys think that i should'nt wait on her hand and foot ,or is it ok to spoil her?? I feel bad because her mom isn't around much,so i pretty much give her whatever she wants and I just wonder if i'm over doing it?
2006-07-09 08:58:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You could be overdoing as a single father you want to give her everything, but we can't make them happy nor give them everything. It doesn't hurt to do things for her but she could have helped and made it a better time for both.
2006-07-09 09:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by cejay1953 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Daddy's little girl. Remember, your mom and dad all at the same time. Sometimes this can be hard to do in some cases. I know, I'm in your shoes. Maybe the two of you need to sit down and just have a good long talk. Ease into it. If you go telling her she needs to do this and she needs to do that, she can and will rebel, all kids do, I did I'm sure. Just let her know you would like to start seeing her help alittle around the house. I know your strapped for time, I am to. We do what we feel we need to do for our kids. Since it's only you and her there's that bond, dont break it. Just teach her a little responsibility, not all at once. Maybe try a chart, giving her a few chores a week to do. Things you know she can handle, and would free some of your time up. Then maybe making cookie's would'nt be so time consuming. When we have things we need to do, cookies is the last thing we wanna make. I'm a mom and I have a daughter, and I would'nt change that for the world..... Dont work to hard, you to need a life outside of home and work. Wishing you well. Enjoy your daughter
2006-07-09 10:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't spoil her, then she will be looking for a man to do the same when you aren't around. And believe me, while most may start out doing so, they change once they have you.
I think it's great that you made her cookies, but what would have been awesome is if she had made them with you.
Your time as you said is valuable, your time with your children is priceless.
2006-07-09 09:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't act on behalf of two persons because you are a single dad! i think your daughter simply wants some quality time with you as you seem to work everyday. maybe it's not as much as the cookies but seeing if you can have time for her. remember that material things can't buy happiness. what's important is the quality of your relationship. some children can be spoiled but don't come out rotten.
2006-07-09 09:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by teta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not spoil her. The real world does not spoil you it will break you. Give her love but make her work to earn other things in life. You will appreciate yourself a lot more in the end and she will too.
2006-07-09 09:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by cdl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to an extent. Just don't go overboard to the point she expects you to do everything when she says go. Go ahead and make her cookies. That's not going to make her spoiled, just full ;)
2006-07-09 09:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋