So, me and my ex broke up along time ago, and I haven't even really talked to her for quite a while, but I want her back. She was sooo amazing, and I couldn't see it. I've dated other people off and on, but no one has compared to her. I've been trying (kind of half assed) to date this other girl for the past 6 mo or so, but all I can think about is my ex. We live about 10 hrs apart, and I would never ask her to come here cause I know she desperately wants to stay where she is and close to her family, but I'd go to her in a heart beat if I thought I had a chance of getting her back. I heard through the grapevine that she has another girlfriend right now but I don't know if thats true, and to be honest I don't care. I need her desperately! So, do you think I should pick up and move back to try again or should I let it go. If you think I should go back, any suggestions on how to go about getting with her again would be appreciated!
2006-07-09 08:55:46 · 17 answers · asked by Jenn 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This girl is everything to me, I'd give up my whole world for her.
2006-07-09 08:56:20 · update #1
She wanted to be with me, I was just too busy partying and being blind to what I had. I broke up with her.
2006-07-09 09:01:47 · update #2
ex-es are ex-es for a reason.
you cannot make someone be with you who doesn't want to be with you.
move on and with your life.
when the next girl comes along, you will wonder how you stayed STUCK ON STUPID for so long.
LIFE EXPERIENCE
2006-07-09 08:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you start with a phone call and see how she is ... you can call her and say you were thinking about her and missed her and wanted to know how she is doing. Then she will probably tell you what's going on in her life, and based off of that you can assess if you want to go see her.
Now, if she seems like she is unhappy or misses you too, then you should consider giving her a visit. In this visit make sure to apologize sincerely for the past and say that you want to try being together again and see if things will work out. Say that you are willing to do anything to make the relationship work and make sure you mean it! Hopefully, then she may give the relationship another chance. If she is the girly type flowers and a nice card with something sincere and sentimental written on it tend to mean a lot!
Now, if it seems like she is happy doing her thing, then I recommend that you wish her the best and try to let her be. Because if you really love her, you want her to be happy regardless of how much pain you are in. And on a final note, remember that being in love is hard, it takes a lot of work to maintain a relationship and the relationship, just like life is like a roller coaster and it will always have its ups and downs. Right now you may be down, but someday soon you will be up and happy with someone you love with all your heart and soul.
2006-07-09 16:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure try it and tell her how much you miss her and how great she is. Maybe she missed you too? Or, the worst thing is, she doesn't miss you, but she will appreciate your flattery, and be a good friend to you.
The chance of this working out I think is slim. After a break up, people mentally move on and flush you down the toilet. I had one ex try very hard to get back together with me in subtle ways, but NO WAY, she had her chance, and she blew it, no repeat offenders for me thank you.
2006-07-09 16:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you should call her or go there for a visit. Don't move anywhere for anybody until you know for sure it is going to work out. I've learned that lesson too many times. But if you said all of those things to her and there wasn't anything major that you did to break you up, then she should give you another chance! Just don't screw it up, really show her how awesome she is and prove it to her how much she means to you.
2006-07-09 16:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She get's a "VOTE" too...
You, as a member of a couple... just don't get to say... I WANT THIS... and make it so. However...
If she has a simular sense of loss... if she is experience the same thing... maybe it's time for a dialogue... WHO KNOWS?
I can see... having a really amazing relationship... and thinking... if my FIRST TRY was SO GREAT... let's go for BETTER... not knowing that it was the BEST.
See what she thinks... and bounce this off of her...
good luck
2006-07-09 16:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question yourself as to why you guys are ex's. If anything has occurred to changed you, perhaps things might have a go. However; understand this, she may have moved on to greener pastures. What happens if she is dating someone else? Perhaps you should attempt to contact her, just to strike up a conversation and test the waters before packing up and moving out.
2006-07-09 16:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd contact her. Maybe she doesn't want YOU back. Maybe her current GF is her world.
I've been in your spot and lost something great, but I moved on after I was forced to realize that was happened, happened, and there was no going back. It took several years, but now Im with someone amazing again!
2006-07-10 01:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is full of disappointments as you well know. it would be the time to move on because as my friends would say, "there are alot of fish in the sea" and it will be a matter of time before you meet someone else. times change and people change, but all you can ask for is to be her friend and vice versa.
but I think you should move on with your life because your ex has. Good luck in the future and good luck in whatever you decide
2006-07-09 16:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by beckyschristine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you've realized your faults and you sincerely want to fix them and have her return to you, I suggest you sit her down and talk to her about how the both of you feel about the other. I pretty much can guarantee that you'll have to beg her for another chance, but you have a shot at getting one. Don't halfass it again.
2006-07-09 16:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww that's sweet!! Anyway, if you want her back then go to her and tell her how you feel. Admit you made a mistake and be completely honest. If she doesn't take you back, then I'm afraid its time to move on, but you never know what can happen unless you try. GO FOR IT!!
2006-07-09 17:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by ScorpioBeauty09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call her on the phone and send her mail and get her to say OK come out here before you pick up and move.
2006-07-09 16:00:38 · answer #11 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋