My dad went into the hospital yday (I just found out today), and he is on life support, in a coma, may have kidney failure and his blow pressure is low. He is on coumidin (idk how to spell it), as a blood thinner but had to go w/out it for a few days.
With all of this my dad is in very critical condition and they're unsure if he'll make it. My boyfriend is 3 states away working in a summer camp. Should I feel bad for making him come home to be w/me? Am I being selfish?
2006-07-09 08:51:53 · 17 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You shouldn't MAKE him come, he should be coming because he wants to be there for you. Good luck:)
2006-07-09 08:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask if your dad is stable ( ask Doctor) , people can come in and out of comas .If he seems not stable soon , then ask your boyfriend , because The fact that the hospital is doing all they can , your boyfriend can't do anything but support you .And I know that's important but , you already asked him to come home , so what's done is done , don't get on boyfriends case when they never hire him again . Your not selfish just , couldn't or didn't want to be alone .He's there so , no advice can change what is done .With ER situations many people panic or get depressed .Rather we learn an easy way to deal with situations or fight back , there's no stopping what will be for all of us someday .My son did stay at his girlfriends home when this happened and they didn't work it out , he couldn't relate to all that was happening ,as I've bung my kids up , that you will find strength some how , your brain / emotions controls your reaction.Your someone that really needed him and he loves you so he is there .
2006-07-09 09:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not your husband. He is your boyfriend. Your father is not his father. Why would you be upset if he doesn't come? He has his job, his life, and you are a girlfriend--not a fiance, not a wife.
If you and he love each other, that's great---but I'm sure he doesn't feel like a part of the family, because he really isn't. That would be an extremely awkward position for him to be in.
What if he did come to the funeral; he was held out like he was "permanent" in your life. What if he doesn't feel or want to be "permanent" in your life? Aren't you having far too many expectations of a boyfriend?
2006-07-09 08:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 22:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a difficult situation. Would he lose his job if he left? I understand that you need support, and I'm so sorry that your dad is in the hospital. Talk to your boyfriend and ask him if it's possible for him to leave. If he can't, then the best thing he can do for you is to be there by telephone. Sometimes we just have to do the best we can with difficult situations. I'm sure that he wants to be there with you, but this time he may not be able to.
2006-07-09 08:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're going through all this. I went through something similar myself. My husband stayed behind while I flew out of state to be with my dad for 6 weeks. As much as I would have liked him there, he had to work (we were not financially able to do otherwise) We spoke by phone daily and it all worked out. Don't put so much pressure on yourself or your boyfriend. There are no right or wrong answers here, it's what works best for all involved. I hope all works out for you and your dad. Best wishes.
2006-07-09 08:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that you may want someone around to help you through your dads time in need but just dint forget who is important right know your dad needs to know that you have his back stay with him as much as possible that might help him heal faster knowing that when he wakes up you are there.
2006-07-09 09:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel selfish for asking him to be with you. This is all part of life and part of your future life together. If he cannot take the time off, remember this is not his father to the employer, be willing to accept that.
2006-07-09 08:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u musnt do that,cause with the time passing u will lose the control on everything,and many bad things may happen!
really! and i think ur being sooo selfish
(with all of my respect)
2006-07-09 08:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by REmony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who said you shouldn't make him, he should just want to come....But I do hope your dad will be ok I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
2006-07-09 08:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should. b/c if somethings bad happens then he should be there to support u. and i am sry to hear about ur dad. i will be praying for u and ur dad. plz give us an update on ur dad. i hope he gets better.
2006-07-09 09:29:49 · answer #11 · answered by cheerbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋