I ride a bicycle. Walk about 4 miles 2-3 times weekly. I have my natural teeth. I have loads of dark brown hair and I am very comfortable with who I am except for 1 thing. I am a loner. I have my own private world in my house and people I work with want to come over, but I really don't like people in my house. Do you think I am normal. I feel like they want to come see what I have and be nosey. I do have 1 very close friend who comes over occasionally, and a boyfriend who comes over a couple times a week. I raised my kids here, I am not rich. I don't hoard and I am not dirty. I don't have a bizzillions of cats or anything to hide. The house is about 100 yrs old, I have no issues that I know of except I am intensely private. One of the people I work with asked me if I was a clean freak. No, I am not. Do you think I am a weirdo?
2006-07-09 08:40:46 · 27 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
i gave a description of myself to a complete strangers because I want you to know I look normal. I have nothing about my appearance I need to hide. I have been married x 2 and no I am not looking to date. I am deeply in love with my significant other.
2006-07-09 10:54:59 · update #1
I have been in the bar scene and actually was pretty promiscuous for about 10 years. That is part of history. Thank the good Lord! Its a wonder I didn't end up with AIDs or something.
2006-07-09 10:56:50 · update #2
This whole question came up because a girl from work called me up and planned to show up at my house in 20 minutes. This is the 2nd time she has tried to come over
2006-07-09 11:00:11 · update #3
You are a perfectly normal lady!
I don't want nosey coworkers coming to my house either. Why would you think you aren't normal? You have friends, you have a boyfriend, you raised a family, you have hobbies...I don't see the abnormality.
2006-07-09 08:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its abnormal. If you don't like people to come over and you still want to not be a loner then maybe check out the bar scene with some of those people from work, or join a club. There are plenty of groups around that you could join that don't require people to come over to your house. Volunteer at a church, or there are a lot of groups that meet once a week and do stuff like a book club or a sewing club, that could help you gain more friends.
2006-07-09 15:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by kill_dog1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you lead a perfectly normal healthy life. Some people are very open and love to have people that they don't even know over to entertain them. Others tend to be a little closed off and simply don't want people there. Many are somewhere in between. Are you a weirdo? yes, as we all are in our own way. Diversity makes life fun, so keep'em out and keep it clean.
2006-07-09 15:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? ??? ??????? ????????? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I was more like you. I am an open book to everyone and I regret revealing so much later. I enjoy my own company pretty much, I am not lonely when I am alone. Be who you are and do what you want to do as long as you don't hurt anyone. You are a strong person and a free spirit.
2006-07-09 15:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a loner too and we are just wonderful. When I read your post, a few of the statements you made really applies to me as well.
We are the rare breed that actually enjoy our own company. I always say, "I enjoy being alone but I am not lonely!"
2006-07-09 15:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you regard your home as your SANCTUARY, your safe zone, and you want keep it that way. If you would really rather open up a bit more, take it slow and invite someone over you've never invited before--do that, say, once a month. When your comfort level rises, you can try doing it more frequently. But it's entirely up to you. I don't think you're weird for wanting to maintain your privacy.
2006-07-09 15:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were not popular in school and you were always picked on by others, you do tend to grow up to be a loner. There's more of us than you think, and personally, there is nothing wrong with no trusting others. In this day and age, it is essential to trust no one.
2006-07-09 15:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by imagineworldwide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think your a "weirdo". I think there is something very needy about people who constantly have to be around other people. I guess "to each his own". As long as your happy. But it is nice to have a friend or two to share nice evenings at home.
2006-07-09 15:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are not intrested in social talk and probably liket o keep your feelings to yourself. Its not strange everyone has that attitude. However when such attitude is accompained by fear or shy or insecurity, it pushes people off the limits and makes them unhappy. I am in similar situation and like to get off. Hope this can be mitigated through open discussion.
2006-07-09 15:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should think about going to talk to a psychotherapist. You're not weird or crazy (you don't have to be to see a therapist) but you might want to get to the bottom of why you're so intensely private.
2006-07-09 15:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by JP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋