Some of you might remember I posted recently, as my bf walked out on me, (I am pregnant), to be with his ex wife. He has been in touch, he wants to make a go of it with me and baby, yet he is saying he wont move out of his ex wifes house until I come to him. I am now living back in England with my family, he is in the US. I think he should move out first to prove to me he is serious, he won't, is this just more of his cruel games?
2006-07-09 08:40:30 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hon, dump this guy; once you are over in the States, he will be back with her again, and youll be stranded. He is a complete and total ****. He did the dirty on you when you are carrying his child; what does he want you to do next- move into her house and screw both of you while the kids look on?? He has proved how much he cares about you and the baby. Why the hell should you be the one to go back??? If he wanted you, he would move heaven and earth, and he sure as hell wouldnt still be living with her, would he??? C hange your phone number, send his letters back marked "Moved from this address" and get on with your life. I suppose you always gave in to him when you were together, and he just wants to be in command again.....well, show him you dont need him, because , believe me sweetheart, you really dont.!! Good luck
2006-07-10 04:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
even though you think the best thing for you right now is to be with the baby's father he sounds like a jerk and will only hurt you in the long run. He should never of let you leave or go back to his ex. Stay with your family you gonna need the support.
2006-07-09 08:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Janice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry to say but it is more likely that he is using you. You moving to england have a great chance to start afresh and Im sure this opportunity wields much potential in making you happy, so I would if I were you stuff him and make a new start, if they dont love you enough first time they never will, its a tough lesson that can drag on for years if you're not a quick learner. Sorry but to put it short you deserve better. Reach for the stars.
2006-07-09 08:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by englishkeymaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's playing a game with you. Stay where you are until he proves himself to you. Think about what might happen later on. If he's done this once, he may very well do it again and again. Is this what you want for your baby? Your child deserves to have a father that is mature and responsible. Not some child wanting to play games with life. Drop him. If you won't do it for yourself then at least do it for you child.
2006-07-09 08:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by Fuzzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably! You did the right thing by going home to your family. If this guy truly loves you, he will divorce his wife, and come to you. Don't accept him without the divorce papers in his hands. He sounds like he is the type to play games with both of you! Best of luck to you and your baby!
2006-07-09 08:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are better off with your family. If he was honest & trustworthy he would of left his ex wife's home & gone through hell & high water to get you back....
he wants you to do all the running while he sits back & enjoys the attention from 2 women.
Break all ties & find some-one who deserves you....its your ex's loss not yours
2006-07-09 08:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by skippy's mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to have his cake and eat it too. he just wants you back o hurt you more. he wanted his ex wife let him have her, if you move bach to US then move back for you not him. he will do it again, how can you leave someone that is pregnate with your child? if he really wants you he will leave her and set up your home so you can be together, but no he wants you here first, no that shows he only want to be with you if you are here and he doesnt want to be alone, he nneds someone and cant just go without you being here, he is one of those epople who always has to be with someone or they will go crazy thats why he wants you here but thats not going to work, thats not ok. how can he one day be with her and the next day come live with you? that doesnt sound like a person that wants to get back together with thier pregnate girlfriend. i say you dont play his game.good luck.
2006-07-09 08:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it - don't do ANYTHING, why on earth would he ask a pregnant women to up sticks and emigrate?
If he is serious, he will cross the Atlantic for you. Hell, if he loved you he would crawl over broken glass for you...! Stay at home with your loved ones and look forward to your wonderful event. All the best and be happy :)
2006-07-09 08:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel,
I wouldn't go back if I were you, You should stay with your family and if he really loves you and your unborn child he will pack his bags and come to you. Don't let anyone tell you about how bad it is to raise a child in a broken home because it is worst to raise a child in a home with two miserable parents don't let something like that affect your decision. GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-09 08:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by GeAuX tIgErS!!!!!!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...if it wasnt he would be with you wouldnt he? Move to england and find someone who will love you and your baby. Even if he does move out of his ex's dont take him back..have you ever heard the saying ..hurt me once shame on you..hurt me twice shame on me!! That means dont give him a second chance to hurt you becasue chances are HE WILL!
2006-07-09 08:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by babycakes2201 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋