My girlfriend got a divorce for me just recently. I had discovered just a couple of pictures of her and her ex-husband and they seemed very happy with eachother. The pictures couldnt have been taken more than 4 years ago. I guess I feel guilty cause I feel I could have caused a happily married couples divorce. Is there any particular questions I should ask my girlfriend for my reassurance that she would really rather be with me. I know this seems silly since she has already gone through the divorce, but I feel bad seeing them so happy together previously in pictures, letters, and some other small things.
2006-07-09 08:35:41 · 19 answers · asked by frantica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
points!!
2006-07-09 08:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by greeniferrr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are truly in love with her , let the pictures . guilt go and work on this never happening to you .We have had a past and it's gone .Yes many where remember able .They were married so they had many great times but something fell apart .You couldn't have gotten in between them if she was really still in love or happy .That simple ! I tell any guy I date , yes that's my ex picture , we were very happy and I chose to keep the picture up , over there is you and me , there is a guy I dated years ago . There are my kids and there my dog pictures , PICTURES not today . Hope your both happy , now if I remarry I'll pack the date pictures away .But not waste great memories , Why ? Pride , some people just choke on it and drown in worry or jealousy . Enjoy today and yesterday will fade to make room for another tomorrow .Live , love , and don't waste life .
2006-07-09 15:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she wouldn't have started dating you if she was happily married. Something must have not been right. Have you ever noticed that when a camera is pointed at somebody they get this "everything is so perfect and happy" smile on their face? If you ask her about the day the pictures were taken, she could say something like "I remember that day, we went home and argued for 3 hours that night." They're just pictures.
2006-07-09 15:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by treebark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference would her answer make? You know you had something to do with it. So why ask her? You made your bed and now you must live with your guilty concious!
If you feel this bad looking at the pictures and trinkets of her marriage..think how much she must long for that happiness but realize what a mess she chose to make?
2006-07-09 22:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would've felt quilt before dating a married woman if u cared that much,now everything is a past.Obviously,she divorced him to be with you,there is no need to ask questions now.Everybody has a happy past relationships,don't U?Just enjoy yours now and don't ask unnecessary things that can ruin the present.
2006-07-09 15:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend made the choice to get a divorce. You don't have the power to make someone get a divorce, unless you blackmail them, coerce them, threaten them with death, etc. If you did one of those things, then, yes, you should feel guilty. If you didn't, then you should realize that your girlfriend made the choice, not you.
That said, since you had an affair with her while she was still married, you should feel guilty of adultery.
2006-07-09 15:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because someone looks happy in pictures doesn't mean they really are. obviously if she wasn't all the happy, she wouldn't have gone through with the pain and trouble of a divorce. you must have something she likes otherwise she wouldn't be around! good luck to your relationship!
2006-07-09 15:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by scorpiotreefrog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we make choices and the consequences will come
either good or bad..if she divorced she really thought it was the best for her..don't worry=) that happened in the past and now she is with u and she is happy and that's perfectly k.it is not meant to be that all relationships will last..its just how the two know how to handle the situations that come in their life's and always will
2006-07-09 15:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by whitebutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should'nt feel bad sometimes what seems happy is not. Its just a cover up. Pretending to be happy for people. But if things are going good for you and here and she seems happy with you and you happy just move on and put that behind.
2006-07-09 15:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by cilstubbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling guitly points to the fact you have a conscience. You must be a kind person.
First, she did not get a divorce for you...she did it for herself. The real question should be, when will she leave you for someone else. I know it hurts, but anyone who "cheats" on one, will most likely do it again.
2006-07-09 15:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by George G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she already gave you the biggest sign. She wouldn't have ended the marriage if she was still happy with him. However she did and that says a lot for how she feels about you.
2006-07-09 15:39:34 · answer #11 · answered by stepmomster22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋