Today is mine and my boyfriends 4 month anniversary and tomorrow is my birthday. he called my mom a few weeks ago and told her he had a surprise planned for both days. now he saying its not gunna happen. i understand that but im still very disappointed. i dont think im getting anything on my special day. is it wrong that i expect him to do sumthing for me not necessarily buy anything but show me he cares?
2006-07-09 08:28:59 · 21 answers · asked by froggchik 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
after these days i will be back with an update as to whether i had a surprise or anything at all
2006-07-09 08:42:55 · update #1
i hate it when women expect some thing. not in a sexist way. but from a relationship stand point. when ever a person "expects" they better also "expect" to be disapointed. cause to expect something means you want something, if you now want something, now its gonna be picky, and guess what it is, it's not what you expected. ha. just take it. what ever he gives you. at least he took the time to inform your mom. thats special enough if you ask me. cause it means that he's thinking about you, and working on trying to excite you. it's the thought that counts... the only thing you should be worried about is if he plans to break up with you. so hey it cant be that bad anyways... and besides, its only been 4 months... but happy b-day and he probably is gonna suprise you. its called a curve ball to through you off i bet... good luck...
one more thing, did you get him something for your "4 month" anny? and is it what he would expect? think about the other persons feelings as well...
2006-07-09 08:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by gilbert g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On your special day??? If you are living together without being married and he's buying you food, putting a roof over your head, why should you be disappointed about anything?
Maybe he's out of money. Maybe he's finished with you "services" and is going to cut you loose. If you're going to be a live-in "working girl," you have to understand that when the gig is up, the gig is up and you'll have to find some other John to take care of you.
Birthdays and anniversaries are not included with the "live-in Working Girl" job description. Sorry.
2006-07-09 08:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's sending you a trong message. To show you he cares doesn't cost him a thing. Just time. If he doesn't show you anything for your birthday then it's kind of a big deal.
Your four month anniversary is kind of silly and it's not that big of a deal.
Also don't get too freaked. If he acts somewhat caring towards you, then there's a chance he might have a surprise. I guess just go with the flow.
2006-07-09 08:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by SkyRaider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check back the day after those days and tell us what he really did.
Remember, what you feel is never wrong. It is how you handle those feelings that matters. Your b/f may have a great reason for not buying you something on those days. Perhaps he just had to pay the deductible on his car insurance and he is now broke. There are millions of reasons.
The only thing you should expect is that he cares for you and shows you that you mean something to him. By the way, are you doing something special for him for the anniversary? [I had to ask!!]
Congrats and happy Bday!
Will D
Enterprise, AL
2006-07-09 08:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Will D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not too much to expect that your boyfriend would do something to acknowledge your birthday. It doesn't always have to be something big and / or expensive, but something to say you're are special to him should be expected. If he messes up and doesn't do something for you then you should tell him that it hurts your feelings. If this is a pattern of behavior for him, dump him now. It will only get worse. Remember, you teach people how to treat you. Don't put up with anything that is less than what you need or desire.
2006-07-09 08:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by BR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 12:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by dopico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is just a theory. If you knew something was going to happen then it is not much of a suprise perhaps your boyfriend is telling you it's not going to happen so that when he springs it on you it will be a genuine suprise. Maybe you've got a good day ahead of you after all.
If this turns out to be correct then I've spoilt the suprise for which I apologise. But I meant well.
2006-07-09 08:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by malcy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong at all. And I'm sure that he's doing that to get your guard down. It'll be a HUGE surprise now. Except for the fact that I spoiled it....Crap.
2006-07-09 08:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you ruined the surprise by informing him about you knowing about it.
But don't be disappointed, I'm sure he has a few tricks up his sleeve.
If not, then just by yourself a cake, go to your room and sing to yourself.
2006-07-09 08:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves ya he will get you something special and thoughtful.Even if it's the smallest thing in the world he'll give you something to show he cares.If not then I don't know what to say...but that his plans went wrong.Something happened.
2006-07-09 08:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋