My 6 year old is very quiet,calm and intellectual, my 4 year old is the opposite, not that he isn't smart, he's just as smart as my 6 year old, but he is a wild man....He hits everyone, whenever anything doesn't go his way, he runs around constantly, he isn't very affectionate in comparrison....And before you go blaming us, as his parents, we DO NOT HIT our kids, and my oldest is and was never like that! Any one have any tips, or similar stories...Kind of makes you wonder about nature vs. nurture...
2006-07-09 08:19:31 · 9 answers · asked by ndussere 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my children are 7 and 9. my oldest (the boy) is very mellow, go with the dlow kind guy. very quiet and loving. my youngest (the girl) is a hell-raiser!! my husband and i do not spank either. time outs and soap in the mouth. but my daughter is very hard to handle all the way around. maybe because shes the youngest? maybe because she's the girl? who knows i guess it's just life!! good luck!!
2006-07-09 08:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
re: "And before you go blaming us, as his parents, we DO NOT HIT our kids, and my oldest is and was never like that!"
....not to 'blame' you but........what are you doing to stop or correct the kids 'hitting'? did you laugh at and/or enjoy the hitting in the begining when it seemed so 'cute' and harmless? were you secretly glad that someone in your family GETS TO HIT? I'd look more closely at your nurturing before blaming it all on 'nature' or some mysterious thing that you can not control. you are responsible for how you raise you kids so i'd start looking at what you are NOT DOING that encourages or permitts the kid to use 'hitting' as a way to get what he wants (attention from his family?). you are the power in you own home so take charge and stop pretenting that it's "just his nature". somehow he has learned that 'hitting' gets results with all of you so, don't BLAME nature for inadequate parenting. take some adult responsibility and LEARN HOW to parent before it's too late.
good luck,
jim
2006-07-09 09:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my sister is 13 and hates books is moody and thinks she's the boss, im 11 i'm quiet, smart, and read books a lot, my little sister is the total opposite of me and loves my older sis yet my brother is similar like me, i think the reason is that even if siblings are related we all have seperate minds and think differently and i hate it if my little sister atempts to copy me so i guess siblings give each other competion and they accept it. My mom was an only child so she has no clue why we fight but it's beacuse we're different and we hate the competition we accept. that's what i think....
2006-07-09 08:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell parents who have only one child: "Until you have two kids, you can't give any advice."
Every child is different and the way you parent a child depends upon his individual make-up. You also have to respect their individuality. You have to adapt to your children and parent them based on their unique needs.
Also, for boys at age 4/5, hitting is common. He will probably outgrow it in less than a year. Just be consistent about reminding him that you don't like that behavior. I don't think you should punish a child that young for expressing emotion.
You have to help your child by discovering what he needs.
2006-07-09 08:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I"m puzzled myself. I stay contained in the baltimore/DC section and that i have commonly used women to have children of distinct fathers and nationalities. even extra unhappy are the single adult men easily attempting to make a relatioonship artwork with them. In some circumstances the individuals I dated left me for women with children with 2 or 3 children of alternative fathers. One suggested he felt stability became extra take care of with them than me on the grounds that I easily haven't any children and characteristic a career and nevertheless going to college. the different guy already had 2 children with 2 distinct women and his paychecks went in the route of kid help. obviously I ask extra questions now in the previous i bypass on a date yet ALOT of girls are like that right here. unhappy on accurate of unhappy...multiple those children bypass to college at the same time and dont locate out they're appropriate till they're already courting and by employing coincidence ensue to carry them living house to satisfy the mum and dad..eeew
2016-11-06 02:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all parents with 2 ( or more) kids will find they tend to be opposites! i have a 12 year old and a 6 year old ..both boys.... like day and night....when i think about my older one at 6 he was allot more independent..less needy, less whiny.... etc..... the baby's act just like that... baby's.... good luck with yours because a spank every now and then never hurt no-one....and it sounds like yours needs one.....
2006-07-09 08:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all parents that have 2 or more kids have that. it is just a natural thing
2006-07-09 08:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jordan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i strongly believe in spanking you child but when its needed....Have you brought him to a doctor....it kinda sounds like adhd.. or an aggression problem....Have you tryed to cut out sugars in his diet....It helped my bro when he was little
2006-07-09 08:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by ravennicole1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person has their own unique personality.
2006-07-09 08:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by silver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋