2006-07-09 07:51:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been in your shoes. If you are best friends, that is something valuable. It may not be exciting, but who promised marriage would be a non-stop party and lovefest?
My advice to you is to not do anything rash. You need to discuss how you feel with your wife. She deserves to know. Parenting makes marriage seem more like a business partnership than a romance. That is pretty normal. What ways can you add romance?
Remember, people "fall in love" with how someone else makes them feel about themselves. Give your wife more attention and she may give you more and you just might find yourself falling in love again.
Hope this helps. -- Nicole
2006-07-09 08:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole H. 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
What does "In Love" mean to you? You say that she is your best friend. How would you feel if you didn't have her?
Love is a decision. Not just an emotional feeling. Almost every married couple has a time when they go through being "in love" This is a feeling of wanting to be with the person all of the time and thinking about them all of the time. This feeling is not realistic after awhile. It changes to friendship and admiration. It settles down to a comfortable feeling and a feeling of trust and respect.
I would suggest that you work on some romantic times together. When you have two little children to care for all of the time some times the romance is hard to do. This is typical in all marriages.
2006-07-09 08:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there isn't anything else going on there I'd say that maybe your suffering the parenthood blues. Your so busy being good parents that you don't get around to feeling for each other. Having a great relationship also means that it is easy to take each other for granted. Start dating her again and make sure you are correct in what you are feeling before you mess up what sounds like a great thing. Hopefully you just need a little more date time to feel for each other again.
2006-07-09 07:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by snowhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to remember what attracted you to her. Remember the romance you had when you were dating. Being in love doesn't just come naturally. You have to choose to love & work at it. In a marriage relationship, you always have to work & strive to keep the flame going. You worked at it before you were married. You can't just sit back & have a marriage - you have to keep working at it. Put her first in everything & she will respond. Take her out on dates or plan special little things for when the kids go to bed. Just remember, you have to choose to love someone.
2006-07-09 08:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rhonda L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up so quickly. That's what's wrong with people today. People are so lazy and into instant gratification that they want "it" and want 'it" now and don't want to work for "it." Talk to your religous leader or a counselor after you talk to your wife. The grass is rarely greener. Try and spruce up your own lawn before moving to the other side.
2006-07-09 08:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by treena072 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about it, can you leave her and not think about her, can you see yourself with someone else, can you walk away from the years you have been with her? are you just bored with your life, do something about it, you married her so you ahve to do something to spice up your life, take a trip, do something that you have never done before, you shouldnt have gotten maried if you werent ready. if you arent in love with this person then leave her and find someone that you can love and be in love with, but if you cant even stay with this person what makes you think you will be happy with other relationships. i think you are just bored and need to spice up your life.maybe you just want to step out inthe marriage and have fun but i think thats the wrong thing to do. talk to her and see wht she says she might feel the same way.?
2006-07-09 08:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is more impotant to have a friend above all else. Stay with her especially if she considers you to be her best friend. As such "best friends", you should be putting each other first and life and love will find a way. Good luck!
2006-07-09 14:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do fall out of love let her know and dont lead her on maybe yall need to get away and try and spice up things.(no kids)
2006-07-09 07:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥eLiZaBeTh♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not lie to her tell her just how you feel she might feel the same.
it makes it harder if we new you lied to us just for the kids . we are women we are Strong enough to have kids we can here that you no longer love us!
2006-07-09 08:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by realquiet78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you get married you did her wrong and the kids GET OUT !!!!!!!!!
2006-07-09 07:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋