2006-07-09 07:46:29 · 9 answers · asked by mysterygirlx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have invested too much time and effort into your marriage to let this become a problem.
I could probably charm most women, but I do not. I only attempt to charm my wife, sometimes my effectiveness wears off, and I stop for a little while. This may be the case, or maybe he's been a little lazy or (gasp) busy at work.
I think you probably just need some time away with him. Then you can talk and whatnot without all the pressures of life. But don't expect and old relationship to be like a new one all the time. You already know his favorite color and may very well have had sex a thousand times with him. But it is exactly because he is familiar to you and stable for you, that you really need to get back in there and fall in love again. Pretend like you're trying to woo him, he very well might recipricate.
2006-07-09 09:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A perfect marriage , is when two people love enough to get married , the secret of the marriage lasting is when they both don't fall out of love at the same time ! Forever , is sometimes too hard or boring , even routine .One may feel ( as it seems you are ) in questionable of love .I hope he's very much in love now. And if you look back a bit and remember the time you met or dating , how about being asked or talking about marriage .And when that smile comes back , he may someday be asking this ,to himself or even to you answer this way as I am . To have a best friend that knows you so complete , someone that cares the total love for the same children, someone you look good when it's really a horrible , stressed day .What to do ? Just think of all that's past and sit down and say , can we go together for ( a day , weekend , week ) with out the children and just relax and have fun. You may just want to have fun , if it's been awhile .It's okay not to be IN LOVE always .Just not out .
2006-07-09 08:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change you attitude ! Are you talking about feelings or commitment. There is a difference. When you got married was it until death does us apart or until I don't feel it anymore. Think about your poor husband busting his butt everyday for his wife and child and this is the thanks he gets. I am sure there are some days when he doesn't feel like going to work either.Count your blessing that you have a man that cared enough to marry you and and have children with someone who can't see past her own selfish pleasures and see at the whole picture. Look both your children in the eyes and tell them you may rob them of a father in the home because you don't feel it anymore. I wonder how they would feel about it. Get up and stop listening to your girlfriends and craving the single life and do something nice for your husband to show him how you appreciate all he has done for your family. That gushy love feeling doesn't stay always it comes and goes. Marriage is like a cross country walk sometimes there are hills to climb and swamps to cross.Sometimes the road is smooth and the scenery is beautiful. Worrying about that gushy feeling and acting on it is treating marriage like a sprint. A race with divorce court as the finish line.
2006-07-09 08:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a sign i your question that there is a chance for you.you said he is your best friend.can you not work on that,.?i too have 2 kids been with partner 14 years.im very unhappy with him and crave some passion in my life.we dont have sex(cos i dont want to!)if you still have sex then you are ok.if you still love him then you should try and and some sparkle even if it for the kids sake.being a parent and adult is difficult and life is always throwing problems at us.i keep sane by thinking at least the kids are healthy thats the main thing.however i know how important it is for mum and dad to be happy too.good luck hon,
2006-07-09 07:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, don't tell this to him, cause sometimes we all have doubts, and you can make the biggest mistake in your life if you tell him you don't love him and later realize you do.
Go away for a couple of day and see how it feels, clear your mind and let your heart do the talking. when couples have been some years together, love transforms itself, and you have to be prepared for it. It's not butterflies in the stomach anymore, but a need for your partner and companion, so please, meditate about it before saying something you might not mean.
2006-07-09 07:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by ashley j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your best friend, and the two of you have two chldren together, you weree "in love" with him at one time. Find out what caused the love to fade, correct it, and you'll be back "in love" with him. Do things together, hold hands, snuggle, kiss, wink, flirt, go on dates....it will happen again! Good Luck!
2006-07-09 07:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to when you first met....what attracted you to him?
Think about that.....don't think the grass is always greener on the other side......if you are with your best friend you are, indeed, very lucky.
2006-07-09 07:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by shenango515 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spicing up your sex life!
2006-07-09 07:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by Amantia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girlfriend and i are in the same boat she told me this, what your thinking .... i'm wearing the other shoe if you have any advice please send me an email
2006-07-09 07:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋