my wife went out for a drink with the ladies at 6pm last night and walked back in the house at 1o am this morning as if nothing was wrong ,I had a good few things to say to her and said that a phone call would of been nice our anything just to let me now that she was ok , she just turned round and said that i was over reacting and its not like she spent the night with another man ,she just fell asleep on his friends sofa , weve a 2 yr old son and she is 5 months preganant with twins. id just like to now how many other would react if that was ther husband or wife .
2006-07-09 07:31:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do feel sympathy for you, and I hope you work it out.
Just one thing though - I notice your user name is - Lothario......
Do you live up to your name? Just a thought.
2006-07-12 06:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the scenario: Your pregnant wife stayed out all night drinking with her friends. She did not even call you to inform you that she is sleeping at her friend's house. When she came home the following morning, she was upset when you confronted her. By the way, you also said you have a 2-year-old son.
If I were you (the husband), I will make it clear to her that she can not do that ever again. First, a pregnant woman has no business drinking. Second, a married woman should inform her husband of her whereabouts if she could not come home that night. Third, the two-year-old is enough reason for her to come home, no matter what.
2006-07-09 07:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cover a lie by stating the very fact....huh..what? Some people can't lie...their tells give them away...so if they make a true statement in a negative sentament then they are in fact telling the trueth and can get away with it.....hmmmmm... so if someone says, "....its not like she spent the night with another man".... what she is saying is, I got porked cause her face and eyes are telling the truth so no effort is made to cover it up.... thus she looks innocent.
However; 5 months pregnant....(she shouldn't be out drinking) but yea...lets not write into this more then there is... she is pregnant, she is done with sex for awhild, she was probably just ttired and she crashed on a friends couch.... so what is the problem?
Now if a guy did this... yea.. problems...
2006-07-09 07:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind my husband going out but he has to inform me on what he is doing and where he going and I do the same thing. The rules are the same for both for us in our house and her being pregnant and everything, I can understand how concerned you must have been. No matter whether you are a husband or a wife all the rules must be the same for everybody. Something here is really wrong dude! You've to take some steps to stop this. Go to a counselor or something, you need to to help her get over this rotten habit and routine and do it soon before anybody gets hurt.
2006-07-09 07:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by viv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah well to be honest, your wife is bang out of order, 1am 2am and at push 3am without a phone call is forgivable but 10am is just taking the piss! if my husband did that to me id be going mental at him, id want an explanation in fact id demand it, id want proof too, then id check it up, that time is ridiculous, your wife cant honestly believe that's its acceptable? would she except the same behavior from you? is this behavior very out of character for your wife? did she give an explanation as to her where abouts all night? if i were you i wouldn't let this rest until you know for sure of where she had been, shell probably go mad at you and call you possessive or alike but that would be because she may be trying to hide something, don't let her make you feel like your going insane, because you are in the right and she is most definitely in the wrong. Good luck. x
2006-07-09 07:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by odette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tolerate this kind of thing. Trust me, it just gets worse. The fact that she just blew you off about it shows me that she doesn't care at all how you feel. There's no excuse whatsoever for a married person to stay somewhere else overnight, unless it is a visit that has been already agreed to by both the husband and wife. I'm sure you were very worried.
2006-07-09 07:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by lindagreendogs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell............yes I would be mad!! That was very irresponsible of her and that is no way for a married person to act. When she decided to take those vows her single status went out the window. You did not over react because with her being pregnant you had no idea what was going on or where she could have been. She should be saying I'm sorry left and right or until she gets hoarse!!!!
2006-07-09 07:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by whatIthink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think not calling you to let you know she was OK was pretty selfish. She honestly didn't think that you would be upset/concerned? Particularly because she is pregnant.
If my husband stayed out all night and didn't call to let me know where he was, I would be going insane with worry--and rightly so. I'm not saying I have to be his "mommy" and have him check in--but if he chose to stay at a friend's house--and that was a deviation from what he originally told me, a courtesy call would be nice so I can go to bed without worrying. I would do the same thing for him.
2006-07-09 07:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be realy mad at my husband, shoot, i have to bite my tounge when he stays out till 5 am fishin, mind you he doesnt leave 2 go fishin till at least 10 pm. and i know hes fishin cause the lantern smells up the van with cooked bug smell, and theres usualy dirt clods on my fog lights! so, if he went out drinking with friends and hes not home till 10 am, hed be in trouble, hell, BEFORE i got pregnant, i would go out with the girls, and if i wasnt home by 2 am, after leaving around 11, he would be upset with me, especially with no call.
i wish you the best of luck with this, if shes drinking you need to stop her, if shes being a designated driver, tell her a bar is an inapropriate place for a pregnant woman, and that she should offer to let her friends call her when they need a ride home
ps...
all these peeps saying because shes pregnant shes probably not cheating! im pregnant, and i want sex more than ever, so her being pregnant has nothing to account in that area
2006-07-09 07:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife goes out a fair bit and comes in at 3 or 4 in the morning, you have to have trust in her to do the right thing, we all know how women can talk and 1 hour can turn into 3 and 3 into six !!! I don't think she would be risking all that you have in your family for a overnight fling?
2006-07-09 07:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by neo70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all its disrespectful to you and your two- year old. You need to seriously start putting down the rules of marriage. The first rule is COMMUNICATION, then HONESTY. There are things going on in this marriage that you need to bring to the surface. The behavior that is being displayed now is only a fraction of what is ahead.
2006-07-09 07:41:03 · answer #11 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋