ok a few months ago my dad died he was really sick he had kidney problems and alot of other stuff but i didnt know he existed till i was 8 and only saw him 5 times a year so now iwish i spent more time with him
2006-07-09 06:38:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sry to hear about ur dad. The best way i can tell you is that it takes time and a lot of praying and faith in God that he is in a better place and you've really got to believe that. I know it isn't much but that is the best that i can say. I haven't lost any of my parents yet but lost two grandparents with in a month of each other about 7 years ago it will always hurt but you've got to remember the good times you had.
2006-07-09 06:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by angelgirl12576 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. It makes you realize you should value your time you spend with your loved ones now because you never know what's going to happen from day to day. It's an experience to learn from I guess.
People deal with death in different ways, but I think the older you get, the more mature you are, the less scared you are of dying because it is just another part of the life cycle...and if your sick or whatever the pain will finally go away. So, in a way-it's a blessing and should be thought of in that sense. The only time death really bothers me is when I hear that someone has killed a child or a child has died from a disease or something. That touches a nerve with me...I couldn't imagine losing a child. But everyone grieves in their own way. Death is part of life as is living-so, take care girl and hang in there!!
2006-07-09 06:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt is part of the mourning process--most people do go through this (everyone regrets things they should or shouldn't have done when they've lost a loved-one).
It was most likely not your fault that you saw your dad so infrequently--and it's normal to wish you had seen more of him.
There are self-help books on dealing with surviving the loss of a loved one at the public library--some are very good, and worth checking out. You could go to a school counselor; a priest, pastor or rabbi, or a mental health clinic to get help in dealing with this tragedy. It's important to be able to get things out in the open--for your health.
I am very sorry for your loss.
2006-07-09 06:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grief is like the ocean. It is huge! and it comes in waves.
My dad passed away 13 years ago, and there are still times that the grief & pain feels so fresh. And it sneaks up on me, like a wave from the ocean.
Just get through one day at a time. Be grateful for the good things-That you did finally meet him, that you got to seem him a few times a year, and that now he isn't suffering from his medical problems.
2006-07-09 06:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is like "graduation" from tangible...
The body is WHAT you are IN, not WHO you are.
Life here is about FREE WILL.
It is up to you, what to make of what happens around you.
Choose the best version of LOVE you can be.
Be thankful for the time you DID get to spend with your father, rather than focusing your energy on what you imagine you did not get or have. Some people don't find out who their fathers are or get to visit with them....
Whatever you need, you have.
Feel however you feel, but do not focus on sadness for too long.
Live your life.
Everything you need to know, God will show you along the way.
Have faith.....
It's not so much about your father "died"... it's more that he is no longer sick.
It's not about how little time you had with him... it's that you had time with him.
It's not that you don't have him anymore..... it's that LIFE is eternal.
Blessings to you.
2006-07-09 06:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand it's hard. But keep in mind everything happens for a reason. Even the few times you spent with him will always be with you in your memories. I am sorry about your loss, but remember he would want you to be happy and not get deppressed over him. He still loves you no matter what and he will always be there when you need him.
2006-07-09 06:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Hayley M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - Very sorry for your loss of your father.
There is no magic or single answer to dealing with death - It's a corny saying but true - "One Day At A Time" - Life goes on and it's your choice how to chose the good memories you have of him and take what you learned with your experiences with him and go forward.
Sorry wish I could be of more help.
-Jon
2006-07-09 06:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by JonJon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through a period of grieving which starts with Denial (shock,disbelief) then Bargaining (what if, why did'nt I) then anger, followed by feeling depressed and finally...resolution, when you don't forget but you do move on. Write your dad a letter and tell him all, then have a ceremony of your choice, alone or with loved ones. Then tie to a balloon and "send it off to him in heaven".
2006-07-09 06:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat UR self up over things U can't change.
He's at peace, suffering no longer.
U know he's at peace, don't U?
U did UR best, I C my dad twice a year, if I can make it.
So U did well.
Let the wishes go, grieve & give URself time.
:)
2006-07-09 06:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just think of him as being in a better place you have probably heard that 20 million times i know. umm just think i know i could've spent more time with him but now i know i missed out on alot but i know that all i have to do is be a good person i will meet him again someday. Just know that your daddy loved you and you know you loveed your daddy
2006-07-09 07:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Maddie Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋