Why do women love men who beat them about?

Answer 1

the whole bad boy figure...and not the they like it but they love them and so hope that they will one day change

Answer 2

My pet avocado agrees with ilovepocky's pet avocado. The large majority of women don't love men who beat them about. I certainly don't.

You need to talk about individuals, not groups. The entire group of 3 billion women that live on this planet is not all in favor of getting beaten by men. But, some INDIVIDUAL women find it hard to leave men who are beating them.

This doesn't necessarily mean that those women love getting beaten. They could feel emotionally bound to the man. They could see no way out of the situation. They may be financially dependent on the man. The man may have bashed their self-esteem so low that they now believe they deserve the thrashing. There is a whole host of reasons. What you'll have to do is ask SPECIFIC women who are being beaten why they keep going back to the man who is harming them. That is how and where you will get a real answer.

Answer 3

I have 2 good friends who were abused alot by their husband and boyfriends. From talking with them, I believe that these women find guys who beat them because when they were treated like this as children, thats only the way they got attention and learned to feel this as "love." Its the only thing they knew, plus, they didn't have any reason to expect better treatment due to understandably low esteem, didn't look for anything else since being beaten is the only comfort zone they had (recreating a familiar environment), and in the case of some women, they like the dominance of a male. This last one goes back to evolution, biology or the programming (MAYBE).
I am a dominant in the bedroom. Some women like to be submissive and have a guy control her because she knows that in this play or healthy agreed on scenario, he will take care of him and all she has to do is turnover power and alot of trust, knowing that he has her best interests.

Answer 4

I was involved with a woman that had "battered womens syndrome". It was terrible. I only found out when the "honeymoon" period of the relationship was over.

But the one theme she did say when she spoke about it was.."I stayed with him for the kids..he was a good provider..after a while it didnt hurt so if i cried out he got worse....he was very loving and apologetic after it" Crushed ribs (and i only found that out when i was touching her and on one side they felt "different" so i asked why), depressed facture to her face, paying for expensive reconstrictive surgery for her interstate. She also said that he was reading these sort of "self developement books" at the time and it got worse after that.

There is alot of theory about how these women related to thier fathers, how they seem to be attracted to the similar sort of men etc.

Where I lived in a country area this womans defacto (common law) husband threatened to kill her kid by her former partner and set fire to the house. We owned a pub at the time and the police evacuated her and her other kids plus neighboours to the pub as a "safe area". So we made everyone food and hot drinks etc.. She was saying that she would never go back to him...and guess what?.. she bailed him out and they were seen walking down the main street in town holding hands. Go figure.

I have witnessed guys hitting women in pubs, clubs and domestic desputes and when I went to thier assistance got assualted by the female not the male offender. I have been stabbed twice in the hand and arm on two seperate occassions by the female of the guy that was fighting with her.

Its sometimes fear, somethings they know no better, they are attracted to the same sort of man all the time, unresolved issues from childhood.. there are many reasons. But mostly its a cycle of bad relationships..and when they meet a "decent" guy they tend to hurt him emotionally as well.

Do a search on "battered womens syndrome" or battered wives syndrome" as it was previously called.

But then again..some do enjoy it..but thats a completetly different issue....

Answer 5

Men that beat women are not just physically abusing them but they emotionly abuse them as well. It doesn't just start right away..it is after years of put downs..they make you feel like you are stuck and noone else will want you. I fell victum to a man like this. The first three years were great then, a comment-a hit-to full blown abuse--then back to the honeymoon stage and over and over. The women are not stupid they just feel trapped. Do you think the rape victums are stupid? Come on people...

Answer 6

They don't. There are a lot of reasons for the cycle of domestic violence. And it is not about *Love* either. It is about *Power* or one-up-man-ship. The aggressor attempts to put the victim in a lower stepped-on status, attacking anything of worth to that person. I am being gender neutral because women aren't the only ones who get battered. Men may not wish to admit it, but getting a frying pan in the face by a Mad-as-a Wet-Hen Witch of a Wife is not something you brag about to your buddies down at the sports bar.

Why do they stay? It's familiar. They don't have the energy to put forth to break up all the jetsam and flotsam brought together over the years. They're embarrassed.

There's a lot of reasons, but one thing is sure, MissGem_01, not all of them are *stupid* and *clueless.* They may be just trapped by circumstances. My IQ is genius-level; I am a mentor for women perps and victims; my abuser no longer abuses because he got help, but financially we could not split if we wanted to, because we have a chronically ill child, whom we both love.

Answer 7

They don't love it. Sometimes they love the man and wish he would stop. Maybe they were beaten as a child and they feel it is all that they deserve. Maybe they just can't afford to leave the jerk.
Their self esteem gets so worn down by the beatings that they can't think straight anymore.
You don't sound like a very nice person if you think they love getting beaten about.

Answer 8

they don't they are just scared to get out of there as they think they are worthless witch is so far from the truth and the brave ones make that jump and every 1 said after a hard period of getting back on there feet they wish they had done it the first time they where beating up so any women out there reading this get up walk out that door and don't ever look back your better than that

Answer 9

I'm not sure but I find it really annoying because most of the women who get caught up in abusive relationships are so damn stupid and clueless. I suppose in most cases they really do love their man but I don't understand why they don't just end the relationship. And if that person is doing things to harm them they need to tell somebody, and stay the hell away from them for their own safety.

Answer 10

women, who love them stay, because they feel that the guy will change and they fear for their lives. I had an ex-gf who dated a guy who was on drugs, he used to lock her up in the house. She always would cry when she would drink or someone would talk bad about him, while she was dating me she had to explain he was a good guy, when he wasn't on the drugs, he had hit her once, and that was all. He loved her, she knew it, the drugs just made him do it, he couldn't control himself. The thing is that the women make excuses because when the guy is sober, or in a good mood, they are great, but when they turn that is different.

Answer 11

Subconscious mind. For thousands of years women is habituated to see themselves as pet of men. Earlier days they used to like to be dominated. If any man was not hard enough on his girl he was not considered a man. And all the hard men used to be worshiped by women.

Now a days although the world is changed - the subconscious mind remain same - likes to be dominated.