How do you handle people who has the habit of complaining and whining all the time?

Question

My bestfriend is guilty of that. Recently, she recieved a lot of graces from God. But instead of being grateful for everything she has, she would complain & whine endlessly. Seems like she's never satisfied. I advised her to pray for contenment, but she would get agitated with me. I don't know what to do with her. I'm sick and tired of all her complaints. Am I supposed to ignore her? Do you think my bestfriend is normal??

Answer 1

Your friend is a little more materialistic than she should be; this is often due to the insatiable hunger they have for expensive things, or that their parents educated them in such a way.

1. Tell her up front about your feelings towards her. Do not use the word "I", as you risk losing the friendship. (You know Maryanne, sometimes, some people think you complain way too much). Remember to use a sarcastic or joking tone if you wish to take this method.

2. The more you bug her about "praying", the more she will become agitated. If you really, really dislike what she's doing, use the Chinese saying "Stay close, but mentally apart" (As in, slowly back away. Because people who constantly want things are usually highly possessive in relationships and friends as well. Be warned).

Answer 2

If she is your best friend then you should be able to give her a dose of reality, while maintaining the friendship. The next time she complains, stay quiet and let her go on talking. When she finally notices that your not responding, explain to her how her behavior is affecting you. If she cares for you at all, she'll listen. Yes, your friend is normal, often times people take things for granted. Its human nature. However, its people close to us or tragic instances that occur, that eventually open our eyes. Its sad that things have to get to that point, but in the end we are better people for it.

Answer 3

Tell her very lovingly to shut up.
Tell her to look around her and stop complaining.
The only reason she complains to you is cos you don’t tell her the truth.
Am guessing she also complains most of the time cos she needs reassurance that she’s walking the right path.
Just tell her that as much as you’ll like to reassure her and every thing… you really think she should just try to get over seeing the problem and start to focus on the blessing.
Tell her you’re been hard for her own good; cos it doesn’t make her look good.

Answer 4

well since she is your best friend, you are kinda obligated to help your friend...that is if you are serious about your friendship...since you have tried to talk to her then the only other thing that you can do is pray for her yourself..also a good idea may be to stay away from certain topics that seam to never satisfy her and if she were to ask why then tell her that you feel like she is being to negative and not grateful and you fell that it is best to avoid those subjects till she feels better

Answer 5

Some people are just natural complainers.

If it bothers you this much start to phase her out as your best friend and find a new one. After all it is your life, choose to be around those that make you happy and smile, not those that make you miserable.

As we age our friends change, we lose old, we gain new, some are for a long time, some are for a short time.

Answer 6

Well some people is just like that... but you dont have to be bother with that i know is very anoying just happend to have that around me a lot..... but you know how i made it stop?? i just say look i dont need anymore drama my life is enough for me... i dont need the agravations that comes along with your wining ok... lets do something else exercises and walks stuff like that i really do not want to hear your problems.... that should back her off way off..... people would give you as much doo-doo as you can take is up to you... if you really sick and tired of it let her know.. that would stop her i promise,.,.good luck....

Answer 7

This is a little different, but my best friend and her boyfriend are always complaining to me about eachother. I try to give them the advice to talk to the other person about how they're feeling, but neither of them will do it. I finally had to tell both of them to either do something about the problem or shut the hell up and live with it.

Answer 8

appears like my son at 6, and also you recognize what I agree at the same time with your chum if he needs it so undesirable he can get off his butt and get it. If he's THAT hungry he will bypass and get it. Now in case you're already contained in the kitchen and he asks for water, I see no problem getting him water as you're already contained in the kitchen. yet say he asks for a tumbler of water and your contained in the bathroom properly he can purely get it himself or bypass thirsty. OH and if he makes use of the word "properly high quality then I'lll bypass/be hungry, thirsty, etc" use the easy word "ok regardless of the indisputable fact that it is your determination" and walk away. I do ought to agree he ought to no longer understand the thanks to practice dinner so possibly you ought to artwork with him on studying some fundamentals, yet very last time I checked a peanut butter and Jelly sandwich calls for no warmth.

Answer 9

Well, ask her what she is going to do to improve the situation she is complaining about. If there is absolutely nothing she can do, then ask her just accept the situation and pray for things to change. If there is something she can do, ask her to do it instead of complaining.

Answer 10

Some people become addicted to the hormones that are produced by their brain under certain conditions. People that gripe and complain are addicted to those chemicals. Tell her to shut up.