i stopped being friends with a girl that was my best friend for 10 years and then my little sister starts to hang out with her. and they both start talking bad about me and i told my sister that it hurt me but she continues to do it. she talks about stuff and people like she was there but in reality it was me. it hurts and at the same time it is really starting to creep me out. her whole life she always hated me for no reason and was jelouse of me please help me i need help on how to deal with this. has this ever happend to anyone here? i need advice on how to handle the situation.
2006-07-09 06:05:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
In a slighty twisted way, it sounds like your sister is jelous of you. Maybe she idolises you and is why she resents you for what you say to be for 'no reson'. Little sisters will contiue to be little sisters, and as they mature I assure you things will be okay. Also about your ex-bestfriend, its probally for the best that you two arn't best friends anymore because it seems as though she really doesn't care about you or your feelings. Ignore your sister's behaviour and get on with your own social life. Find friends who really care about you, and just enjoy being a kid. Don't spend too much time dwelling on this issue, its probally exaxtly the responce that your sister wants. Good Luck.
2006-07-10 02:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 0⤋
I think that you will have to accept that you really can't do much about changing your sister. Its not that you have no control or influence over your sister, but the control that you can use involves changing your actions and response. Actions speak louder than words! Your sister may change or not in response to your behavior, but in all honestly, you cannot change her.
Sorry honey, what other people say, feel, and do is their responsibility, not yours. Once you realize this you will feel less frustrated.
But what you can change is the way you respond to what your sister says or does.
Accept that you can only change your actions and responses.
Encourage your sister to talk to you, to clarify her feelings. The image which one holds of himself is dependant on his childhood relationships with immediate family. I mean that your sister probably, growing up took self-image cues from you. Sister to sister relationships are important and if there is any " hard feelings " between them, it's important to sort them out and deal with them honestly and openly.
The way you change will be what your sister sees and in turn may change her.
I sincerely hope things will improve for you and your sister. Good luck.
2006-07-09 14:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i have a little sister too..them doing things like that makes them feel better about themselves. look at it this way she is jealous of you so she is trying to make you jealous of her don't fall for it go out and get a new friend and start talking about her and i bet that she will start being jealous of you again and leave you alone for a while..
2006-07-09 13:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by babygirlblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks that she'll grow while talking shi* about you. How mistaken she is! Most people understands this but her - for a while. When she grows up one day - she'll know, and she'll blush in selfdisgust - maybe.
You act nice and overbearing - don't DO anything. If you need this off your chest talk to one of your nice friends who does not tell others.
2006-07-09 13:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is tough, being backstabbed by your sister AND your best friend. ignore them. if they are talkin within themselves blank them. cut them off completly. If they start spreadin stuff about you then YOU do it too. You know just as much as your sister as she knows about you. And you know just as much as your best friend knows about you. So what if your ebff knows stuff taht only a sister should. just let her know it doent bother you. Dont show that you are ashamed of what they are saying to each other. What can they say that is THAT bad.
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2006-07-09 13:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say find new friends and ignore your sister. She is probably just jealous of you and this is her way of expressing her jealousy by talking bad about you. Just pretend like you could care less if she is talking about you.
2006-07-09 13:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by jj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom. She will probably have better advise than I would. She knows the situation and the family dynamic and she loves you.
2006-07-09 13:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get a new best friend, and then let it work it self out. Good Luck!
2006-07-09 13:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by sugar-n-spice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happened to me but it was my older sister who did it .it hurt like hell but even when u tell them they dont stop my sister has hate me our whole life for no reason she even told a lie on me that change my whole life and messed up my future i dunno if u can do it but ive cut her out of my life
2006-07-09 13:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom and somehow get your mom to not let your sister hang out with her.
2006-07-09 13:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by [♥that girl♥] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋