My friend is 14, and pregnant what should we do?

Question

shes 14, what should she do?? she knows who the father is and everything, but her parents don't know...and we dont want to tell them

Answer 1

I'm glad that you are very good friend, and are concerned about your friends well being. If your friend and the father of the child are still together, then they might want to approach their parents together. If not, you can be a friend and help her approach them.. Tell your friend that you'll be there for her whatever decisions she decides but that she has to get help! Just because she tells her parents doesnt mean the decision is out of her hands what happens! It is still your friends body and her decisions.. but she definitely needs to talk to her parents and a doctor.. This is a very hard thing to go through, and hopefully you can learn from this as well and to find other things to do besides having sex at such an early age.. even having sex when you are older has difficulties along with it.. this world is not a safe place.. and sex and unprotected sex can lead to an early child hood gone, or your whole life torn away from you (disease). Be a freind to her, and help them both approach their parents..

Answer 2

How can a 14 year old go through an entire pregnancy without telling her parents? That's not realistic. At least encourage her to go to Planned Parenthood and get some prenatal care.

Answer 3

depending on how loving her parents are, and the relationship she has with them, it could be difficult.
14 is young to take on the responsibilities of parenting or to decide on your own for an abortion. i would venture to guess that your friend has been seeking love, and relinquished her body as a result. it isn't bad or good...i'm not judging. it is part of her journey. this will forever impact her life, one decision or another.
as a woman, mother, grandmother, and past midwife, i honor your friend as a young woman, seeking her truth and way in times that are confusing and difficult. i send her my love.
i don't know if she has told the father...she should. it is something that he needs to realize and own, as a lesson and truth in responsibility.
because of her age, and the support and help she needs, no matter what she decides is right for her, she needs to tell her parents. and the father should tell his. ( i will say that, unless either of them have phyically abusive parents).
it is not the end of the world, it is a life challenge, with a child's life on the line. she needs to have adults who care and support her through the emotions and the decisions to be made. it is without a doubt a risk to take it all on herself in secrecy, or you to be her only support. ask yourself- do i want that responsibility? do i really have the ability (experience, understanding) to respond in this?
she may find that in opening to her parents, she finds some support and love she hasn't known.
prayers and blessings-

Answer 4

the only thing you can do as a friend is be a friend. let her know no matter how many people look down on her or may tell her that she will be nothing and can't make it on her own, is completely untrue. i hope that things will work out for your friend. not telling her parents will be the worst thing. she needs prenatal care and I'm sure her parents will be responsible with bringing her to and forth to the doc. I'm 6 months pregnant myself and i know how crucial prenatal care is. and not telling them will only make matters worse. at least they have 9 months to prepare for a baby verses telling them at the last minute. she might think it is best to wait and tell them but they are her parents and they may be mad at first but they will be one of the few who are really there for her. i wish you and your friend the best of luck.

Answer 5

First she needs to figure out what she wants to do before anyone like her parents influence her decision. Then because of her age she must tell her parents. I have a friend who found herself in the same position. She found a home that would take her in as a pregnant teen in case her parents threw her out. However, it all worked out and her parents adore her daughter. It is going to be okay.

Answer 6

Babies having babies. Well she was not afraid to lay down with the boy so therefore there is no need to get scared now since she knew what could happen if you do ADULT things when you are just a child. She has no choice but to tell her parents so they can educate some more and help her on what to do next.

Answer 7

Well, talk it over between u two and think about the best time to tell ur parents. It is a mistake to be pregnant at 14, but u cant do anything about it. My advice is to just talk it over. You cant be afraid to tell the parents. Yes, they'll get mad, but i bet you that they will get even madder if ur hiding something that like from them. Parents hate when their kids hide things from them. That is my advice, Hope it helps!

Answer 8

She needs to tell her parents, ASAP, so they can get her to a doctor to make sure everything is OK as far as the pregnancy is concerned. And then your friend needs to find someone that wants a child but can't have one, and give her baby up for adoption. She's just a baby herself. Giving her child up to a stable, loving, financially secure home is the most loving gesture she could show her unborn child.

Answer 9

The first thing she needs to do is let her parents know. If you aren't comfortable telling them directly, go to an adult you are comfortable with and ask them to be with you to tell your parents. Expect them to be angry or hurt at first, but that will pass. She is going to need to see a doctor soon for proper prenatal-natal care and is probably covered under her parents policies.

Answer 10

I was also 14 and pregnant, the hardest thing I did was tell my parents. It also turned out to be the best thing I ever did.

Parents love their children unconditionally and they may be upset at first but will love and support her. Please encourage your friend to tell her parents or a trusted adult in her family.