Is 21 to young to have a baby?

Question

Iam 21 and my boyfriend is 28 we want to have a baby my family says im to young what do you think?

Answer 1

WHY - O - WHY would you want to give up your 20's just to have a baby. I think that you will regret doing it this young.........your 20's can be a blast, not to mention you still don't know who you are - find your true self first (live your 20's w/o child), then have one in your very late 20's.

You'll miss so much if you do it this early....plus you have alot of maturing yourself to do that only happens with time.

I would wait - what's the rush anyway? Sounds like your older boyfriend (not your husband?) is trying to pressure you into it because he , in my opinion, is around the right age.

And who's to say that your NON-Husband won't up and leave when he finds out how much work it is?

Answer 2

Look at it this way, if something were to happen to your boyfriend (God forbid) do you feel that you are at a point in your life that you could raise a child alone? I was 21 when my daughter was born and 7 weeks later found myself raising a baby alone. While you may have family support, you're still the one left with 1 am feedings, sleepless nights, and teething issues. If you think at 21 you are capable of dealing with that go for it, but if not, I'd wait. If you have friends with a small baby see if they will let you borrow them for a weekend. I'm sure they would appreciate a break, and it would give you just a brief glimpse into what motherhood is all about.

Answer 3

I do not think that is too young. Maybe they are just saying that to protect you. Maybe they just don't know your boyfriend well enough yet. Since you are not Married they could be telling you that so that you would marry first. I do believe in marriage first. If you can't commit to each other, why would you have a kid. The commitment has to be there for the kid too. You do not want to screw-up that kids life, before it even starts. Some parents just don't want to become grandparents, too soon. Remember You and your Boyfriend have to be ready for 2a.m. feedings, crying all night. changing of diapers at 2 a.m. Changing of Diapers 4 to 8 times a day. Feeding, and playing with the Baby. Don't forget there is a lot of cost with having a baby also. Diaper are not cheep, Hospital bills are not cheep, and you have to see a doctor quite often while pregnant. Very Time consuming. I say sit down with parents ask them why they think this way. Good Luck, Hope that when you do have one, that it is healthy and beautiful.

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Is 21 to young to have a baby?
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Answer 5

That is so funny because I was 21 when I had my first son. My father told me I was too young also. We were also married and bought a house (not rich but pretty stable at the time). I'm glad I had him when I did. However, the marriage didn't last. We knew each other in hgh school/dated but we both ended up growing apart - things and feelings changed. I think the fact that your boyfriend is older (rather than you being high schoolsweethearts and growing apart) is a ball in your court. From experience, I don't think you are too young. Good luck.....

Answer 6

no 21 is not too young. It depends how long you have been together. I had 3 children by then time I was 21 and I can't have any more due to PCOS so I was lucky to have mine young.

Good luck, if you are ready then go for it.

Answer 7

No, depending on where you are in your life? Are you guys set? Educated where you want to be? Life is hard with babies and youre young. I had one at 20 and 1 at 21. Wouldnt change it now, but boy did we struggle when they were little. There was a lot I couldnt give them that I wanted to. It was hard to see all my girlfriends going out and travelling and having fun while i had 2 babies to take care of. Really consider the things you want in life and what you want to be able to do for your children. Consider your own childhood.

Answer 8

It doesn't matter what age you are when it comes to having a baby. What is really important is the stability of your life. Is your relationship strong enough to endure having a child to take care of? Do either of you have a stable job that can support a family? Are you ready to give up your freedom as a young woman? If so, then I think you will make a wonderful mother.

Answer 9

I think 21 is a fine age if you and your husband are ready. I had 2 kids by your age and had the energy to keep up with them. Don't let your family decide things in your marriage. Its unhealthy. Children are a decision made between you two, noone else.
Edit: I was thinking I read husband instead of boyfriend. Marry the man before kids!

Answer 10

I don't think your family is REALLY concerned about your age... probably other things about either/and you and him. Anyway, I had my first (of 2) at 21 and was a wonderful mother, really had the patience and perspective, and raised a kind,successful daughter. She is my best friend, she's now 30 years old. Good Luck with your decision. p.s. husband then boyfriend was 27. We are still happily married.