my husband doesn't tell me that I am beautifull why?

Question

I think that I am attractive I go to the gym 5 days a week and have 2 kids and my husband does'nt even notice the changes a women needs to hear that she is beautiful I need everyone's honest oppinion........

Answer 1

Many women need to hear that they are beautiful, Elisa Marie, and you are one of them. It's called words of affirmation. Your husband doesn't know that is what you need. You, a friend or a relative needs to talk to him about complimenting you, to tell you, "Darling, you look adorable in that outfit," or "Sweetheart, I love the your hair cascades when you fix it like that." Somehow, someone needs to tell the lunkhead that you need to hear these things, and needs to tell him what to say and how to say it.

And, Elisa Marie? Your figure looks fabulous.

Answer 2

Some people aren't verbally expressive. Simply because he doesn't say the words, doesn't mean he doesn't find you absolutely gorgeous. Does he seem happy in your marriage? Do you have good times together? Do you think he'd be with you if he didn't think you were the woman for him?

Don't base your happiness or satisfaction on someone else's reaction to you. You need to like you...and you need to realize that if your husband didn't dig you, he'd be with someone else.

People express themselves in different ways...pick up the book "The Five Love Languages" (I think the author is Chapman) and it'll hopefully help you understand a bit how some people express themselves...just because you're not getting the method of expression you desire, doesn't mean the emotion isn't there.

Answer 3

Well ur husband might not be thinking of the word "beautiful" so only he doesent. Am sure as u say that u r regualar to the gym then u should be a very healthy lady. Dont find fault with ur husband in this matter.Its NOT necessary for a man to tell her woman that she is BEAUTIFUL!!! Chill out and have fun with him and forget all this,..!!

Answer 4

Guys think that once they have pinned you into marriage, he's done his job of the flattery, and wining & dinning. You can say jokingly that you feel like you're wasting your time going to the gym to work out because it's not even appreciated. See if this will get a response from him, and if not ask him out right what's his problem when it comes to giving a compliment now and then? Let him know that you'd like to be shown a little attention at times, because you are trying to look good for him.

Answer 5

After 2 kids I assume you have been with this guy for some time. Strangers see your perfect body and good looks. Your husband sees whats inside. Are you nice to him? Are you always complaining about things he has no control of? If he likes what he sees inside then he will definately be looking at the outside.

Answer 6

there is 1 reason,hes a man!
men will compliment when they are trying to get a woman but once they have them they have a more natural instinct than women and trust in what they have.they for example will trust that you think they are handsome or you woudnt be with them. also they often do not compliment change as if it were better beacause they love you as much either way so they dont have that thing in them that tells them they must compliment you. in their mind they shoudnt compliment you for looking nicer because it would mean you looked worse before,get it?its just the way men think, they show it in other ways. you can always ask him or surprise him with a proper stunning outfit or underwear,hope that comforts you a abit.xxx

Answer 7

to be honest with ya every woman is beautiful in their own way and every woman in the world desevers to hear that their beautiful.and why your husband doesnt tell you your beautiful is mind blowin to me i mean u work out 5 days a week and u have 2 kids sweetheart what u did to do is pull your husband to the side and have a little talk with him and tell him whats on your mind.

Answer 8

The simple truth is, he takes you for granted. For the most part, husbands don't even "look" at their wives, not saying it's right, they just don't do it. They nod, or glance, but seldom ever LOOK. Wives hate it! They want their husband to look at them, the way they look at the sexy woman down the street, or at the mall. When guys start LOOKING at their wives like that, marriages will improve. Talk to your husband, and tell him what you need him to do.....make him aware you feel neglected. Best of luck!!

Answer 9

my husband never did either! sometimes i would fix up and hope he would notice but the guys at work would give me a compliment.! that would ease the pain some. lots of guys do not watch the commercials on tv. the guys never even notices that you lose weight. to make myself feel better i would harmlessly flirt with the other guys at work! my husband would compliment his sisters also,and not me on their cooking, and never mine,even though I knew I cooked a lot better! cheer it I t must be some"guy" thing that you and I happened to get in life!

Answer 10

I do not know your husband so I cannot say why he does that. I can ask if he did before and then stopped?
most importantly... YOU need to feel beautiful for you. Be confident in yourself. Remember you are your own person and individual. If you think you are beautiful.. then damn it u are!

Answer 11

My husband is just like ur hubby previously i used to feel very bad because of this but now I have accepted this fact that he is like this and WE JUST CAN NOT FIGHT WITH NATURE IF HE IS LIKE THIS HE WILL BE LIKE THIS EITHER U ACCEPT IT AND BE HAPPY OR U DON'T AND BE DEPRESSED . AND moreover men are not so expressive about their feelings and opinions , try to read what he is not saying but showing through his behaviour, try to be a mind reader and u will be satisfied.