I have a friend who broke up w/ he bf and she told me i can't talk to him but he is still my friend?
wat do i do? my friend is my best friend but her ex. is my friend too. and the last time i houng out w/ him she wasn't my friend for a couple of days i think she is over reacting. wat do you think?
2006-07-09 04:06:51 · 17 answers · asked by mrvree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People usually dislike and distrust not just their enemies but the friends of their enemies too.
Perhaps your girl-friend now has some bitter feelings against her ex-boyfriend. And some of her feelings are bound to rub off on you, if you continue to associate with her ex-boyfriend.
She has no right to tell you what to do. But you have to realize that being friends with her enemy will likely damage your friendship with her.
This is how relationships normally work between people.
A friend of your enemy is also an enemy. And a friend of your friend is also a friend.
2006-07-09 04:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you become a go between, updating each with news of the other. You should respect your friend first, unless you have interest in the boy, in that case, drop the friend and ride the bull into town. No one may properly draw social limits on others. It's not appropriate. Your friend wants to cut all ties with the bf apparently and if you are close with this friend it should be a team effort and the two of you can move on to new territory together.
What if it were not a bf, but some obnoxious guy your friend wants nothing to do with? I think you would collaborate on the assessment and help each other.
a.) Your friend is protecting you. The guy's a looser.
b.) Your friend is jealous. He may have said something about you.
c.) Your friend doesn't want to see or hear squat about him. In that case she is trying hard to forget him.
d.) Your friend is in insecure with trusting a friend who is in contact with the enemy.
e.) She's putting him on storage for later and wants to keep him as taboo;.
f.) She knows both of you well and doesn't want you to hook up with him.
I say family first, then friends.
2006-07-09 11:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's not much of a friend, nor very mature.
Friends do actually come and go. But since this one is making you choose, to be realistic, you might have to choose between the one and the other.
But the crappy thing? Then they'll get together in a month and neither one will like you.
Sorry that there are so many immature people out there.
2006-07-09 11:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by austin_long 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation. I'm guessing you are in high school? I think she needs to grow emotionally.
Be his friend. A breakup is going to be hard on him as well, and he's not being a jerk about it. Your best friend means a lot to you, but do you want someone in your life who can dictate who you can and can't talk to just because she says so? She'll pull the "but it's MY ex!" card, and sure, he is. But he is a human being, and he is being a better friend to you now than she is.
2006-07-09 11:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was really ur best friend than she wouldn't let stuff like that come between you guys friendships. She needs to understand that it's not your fault that they cant make stuff work out, and she needs to understand that you and her boyfriend were friends too, so I say to u, continue to be friends with her and him, it is very selfish and immature for her to ask u not to see him, sounds like she might be a little jealous. Let her know where u stand and tell her its not fair to have to choose between two friends. Hope u the best of luck, Katana
2006-07-09 11:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by katana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? So when does anyone have the right to tell any other person who they can or cannot speak with. Sorry, if this were your friend she would not be asking you this.
Talk to your friend (her ex boyfriend). It is okay, and if she doesn't like it and says she won't be your friend - she never was to begin with.
2006-07-09 11:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is a little selfish and needs to know that you can be friends with her ex. It's not like he broke up with you.
2006-07-09 11:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the ex- boyfriend some space for a little while, and give your friend some time to heal. It'll blow over quickly, but if she should continue to be irrational, ask her if she would appreciate you trying to tell her with whom to speak. Good luck-
2006-07-09 11:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you friends with the boyfriend before she started dating him? If yes, then I would say keep seeing him. Your best friend will be o.k. She may be feeling insecure but if she is a true friend this will pass very soon.
2006-07-09 11:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by needtoknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your best friend thinks you will try to go out with her now ex. and friends don't do that.
2006-07-09 11:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋