but she tell me she trying to falll back but not promising me anything what should i do? and she mother of my child
2006-07-09 04:05:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
should i continue trying to make it work
2006-07-09 04:12:33 · update #1
hmm well shes confused
2006-07-09 04:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that she is confused and wondering where she belongs. Does she care for the child? If she does then it might be that she has possibly lost the romantic aspect of the relatioship. If she doesn't then she might have not wanted to have the child and wants to get rid of the responsibility. There are always different ways to see things, but what you should do is try to talk with her and ask her what is wrong. Ask her how you are to feel and what you might be able to do. Maybe try adding some sort of romantic zest into the relationship and I don't mean just in the bedroom. Try to please her without makeing yourself suffer. Love is a valuable thing but it is not the only thing for a relationship. You need trust, respect, belief in your partner, faith in your partner, and support. Those are the highly fundamental things. If you can keep all of the above alive then the love with thrive and grow. Keep trying and succeed to further the light of the heart.
2006-07-09 04:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by lmfansler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's breaking up with you, and the "I'll love you forever" is to soften the blow. Forever is a long time, I wouldn't take it literally. However, since you do have a child together, the two of you do need to be able to maintain a good relationship for the sake of the child.
Talk to her about why she's choosing to end the (romantic) relationship, and if there is anything the two of you can do to salvage it (counseling, behavior change, etc)...if that's not possible, then accept that she's ready to move on so you must also...just be sure the two of you have an equitable arrangement with regard to the child, so you can stay a part of his/her life.
2006-07-09 04:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she values your relationship but not in a romantic way. At least at this point.
Focus on your child. Do as much as you can TOGETHER as a family and don't pressure her for more (I know it's hard - I've been there). She may/may not fall back in love with you. If you ARE in love with her, then give her a chance to sort through this. You'll both know in due time.
Most importantly, you are bonded to her for the rest of your life through your child. Ultimately, your child is what matters most and you need to have a good relationship with her for that reason.
2006-07-09 04:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by intheholycity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In long term relationships, it is very common to fall in and out of love many times. Relationships change over time (especially when children arrive). Sometimes going back to the things you did when you first got together helps. Improving your communication and conflict resolution skills often helps. Be patient with each other and understand that the "grass isn't always greener". Make a commitment with each other to work out your differences. You may want to seek counseling if you find that you can't get past this issue.
2006-07-09 04:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the same thing, she probably has met someone and is losing feelings for you and starting having feelings for that other person. Of course she still loves you because of the child you have together, but I would wait around for her, dont waste your energy on someone that isnt wasting it on you. Step back and look at the situation.
2006-07-09 04:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by girlyjunk1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her good because you feel the same way and you are going to start dating other girls..You will get her real feelings then
2006-07-09 04:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she is confused about life. continue taking care of your baby, let her work things out on her own.
2006-07-09 04:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by jolees56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her, take care of the child. She is bull$hitting you.
2006-07-09 04:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has fallen for someone else or thinks she has but still wants you around just in case the other does not work out.
2006-07-09 04:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iF YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR GIRLFRIEND ANYMORE, YOU SHOULD NOT STAY TOGETHER. YOU WILL JUST HURT HER MORE IN THE LONG RUN. YOU SHOULD BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILD BOTH PHYSICALLY AND FINANCIALLY. MAKE SURE THAT YOUR CHILD KNOWS THAT YOU LOVE HIM/HER.
2006-07-09 04:14:00 · answer #11 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋