Why do teenage mums get such a bad rep'?

Question

AFTER READING ALL THE RECENT Q AND A I THINK MORE PEOPLE ARE VERY NARROW MINDED IF THEY BELIEVE TEENAGE MUMS ARE S**** AND GET FREE HOUSES AND LOADS OF MONEY.

DO YOU NOT AGREE THAT EVERY ONE NEEDS TO LEARN A LITTLE MORE 'FACTS' ON TEENAGE MUMS?

Answer 1

ok here is my experience - most teenage moms I know are completely selfish - putting their needs ahead of the childs - most children would have been far better off in the long run being put for adoption so a family with a house and money for college, braces, etc could raise them.

most teenage moms resent having children so young - when they are 35 yrs old they look back and wish they had done things differently - because keeping the baby held them back a great deal and the child wasnt able to reach its full potential since the parent wasnt able to make a big salary

I never have known a teenage mom to get free house or loads of money - quite the opposite which is why I think it is selfish of them to keep the kids - they would be better off loving the child enough to give it for adoption and take cautions not to get pregnant again till they own their own home and are ready for a family

Answer 2

Teenaged mums are some times very good with there child (very few) but most are not that great with thier child and put themselves first then their childs. I had my first child at 21 and i think that was to young let alone at 16, 17, 18. My friend had her child very young a few years ago now and she does wish she had her later on in life. Teenaged mums seem like they just love the free life with out the child so they let their parents bring the child up and only have the child when they feel like it. Then try to be the childs friend more than the parent. But at the end of the day its up to them on how they treat/up bring their child. But teenagers really need to think about safe sex first.

Answer 3

Yes I think you are right. I am not a MUm and not that young anymore either, but I am a social worker and worked for a while with teenage girls who were pregant and still going to school. They finished their educations and became fantastic mUm's hey it's hard work and they have had to work harder that all the other Mums to fight against critism due to their age. Being a Mum scares me but these young people and dad's included took it on and rarely failed their child. Satistics would show that it is not just young parent families that are acused of abuse, have children taken into foster care or have children that do not do well at school. This could be any family young parents and older parents ALL need support when bringing up a child.

Answer 4

I can only guess that you are angered by peoples reactions-- but what can u expect. Teenagers should be studying for their exams at school, getting ready for their future careers, not having unprotected sex and as a result getting pregnant. I'm sure 100% people on here are i agreeance with me on this.

It's not an ideal time to be having babies. Who foots the bill then? Do teenage mums go out to work to support and bring up their children? NO it's us the tax payers that are being lumbered with it. I feels sorry for some of the parents of these young children having babies.

What must they be thinking? Sex education isn't enough to keep these girls informed and its not just the girls, the boys that get them pregnant are just as responsible and should be made to go out to work and support them too.
Well then tell me something i dont know, I had my first child at 24 after going to college and working 6 days a week-- . Come on now where are the facts that teenagers have the skills to be parents??

Answer 5

I personally don't think that teen mother's have it easy. They've got it harder than anyone will ever know. They're whole life changes, they're bodies start goin haywire, they're hormones are out of control and on top of that they have to go through the decision to keep the baby or not. ( if they have'nt already come to that conclution already ) and all kinds of other stuff.
I do wish that teenagers would wait at least they were 18 to start messin around with each other. 14,15,16 and 17 is just too young to have babies. They're still just children. At that point the opportunity for them to explor their full potential drops to almost none. It's really disheartning really. All those lives put on hold over something so redicules a sex.

Answer 6

My friend had her first child at 13 with a guy several years older. Everyone turned against the guy understandably. 3 years later she had her second child (with the same guy) Ok both unplanned but they coped brilliantly together at such a young age. 5 years later they married and went on to have their third child. They are fantastic parents and a very happy family. The children could never have asked for more. Not all teenage mums are incompitent in providing for their children. I dont think they should be judged before knowing the facts.

Answer 7

i dont know why teenage mums have a bad rep, i supose its the way of the world and narrow minded people. many of the teenage mums have a bad rep os they have their babies young like 14 or 15 and then they dont do anything else with their lives so many people look upon it as a waste,
this is just my opinion.

Answer 8

What moron would give up

Friends
Social life
Dating
Sex life
Money as all goes on baby not the latest concert and fashio
holidays
career
university life

And so no guy will want to date them and they never hang out with mates...


So you can get some shitty benefits which are not 'loads of money' as it all goes on nappies etc... likewise the house will be on some awful estate.


Only a total moron would want that
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No any SANE teenager would have an abortion to end the problem there and then and no adoption problems either as the pro life never mention the small print on what adoption does to both families the girl and the kid.

But they become teen mums and brow beaten by the same lot who then complain about teens and benefits into not aborting the foetus...


if you dont want kids on benefits and getting houses... encourage abortion

Duh



Better stilll put your kid on injections or Pills and hand them the condoms yourself, have condom machines in schools with easy access to morning after pills etc...


So they dont get preggers in the first place as they promiscuity is due to fertility and hormone levels nothing else.

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No the truth is lack of education and parental support as they gorw up and active interest in sexaul development = kids don't know it all they have half the info and think they do...


its nearly always the parents fault as thhese are not fully adults yet... they need support ie making them take the pills etc till used to them.

Or accidents... Pretty much as parents who are more expienced likewise teachers don't preempt problems and deal with them...


Obsessed with acedemic learning which wont be much use in most cases.

Answer 9

I agree, teenage moms have it hard
but not only in way of reality hitting them in the face, but also people looking down on them , I mean on the Q and A, all people do is critize teenage moms, why? 99% don't have any experience to be able to back up the stuff they say

Answer 10

The stereotype of a teen mom is juts like saying all black men are murderers and all Mexicans are rapists. People assume just because one of us is bad, all teen moms are bad. I had 2 children by the time I was 19. No I wasn't some **** that slept with anything that had a penis. I've been with 2 guys in my life. Both my kids were fathered by the same man. I was 17 the first time I got pregnant. It wasn't planned. Neither of my kids were planned. People can say all they want that all teen moms don't know how to use birth control. They can keep thinking that. I think I'll believe my doctor who said I have an above average fertility rate. That combined with my fiance's high sperm count, gave us 2 babies conceived on birth control. I've never been on welfare. I'm one of those people that would be ashamed to be on it. Free house you say? My fiance and I are BUYING our first house next year. I agree people are very narrow-minded on this site. It's kind of funny seeing some of these answers. MY mom got pregnant with me when she was 17. Her and my dad were married for 16 years and he was the one she lost her virginity to. I just find it amusing that "ALL teen moms are sluts." People are so stupid aren't they?

Answer 11

This depends really in which country you live in , your close friends and people whom you trust

If you are loved and well surrounded by your parents and even your loved ones I cannot see why should there be a problem

Do not listen to other gossipping , live your life , forget about what others say